"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Crissco

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As you see a hottie walking home from school/work. How would you initiate a convo without coming off as weird?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Very difficult. Very, very difficult. In this day and age, they think you are a creep. But if you are a good looking guy, just smile and see if she smiles back. Say something like "hey, you are gorgeous!" if she says anything say "I have to ask, what's your name, tell me you're single!". Don't be afraid to give credit where credit is due. Or some stupid shivt where a conversation can develop. I told this girl at the gym that she looked like Scarlett Johansen, even though the bitvch is no where near her. Now, she smiles and blushes when I walk by. The point is, see if she responds. This is VERY difficult, especially on college campuses.
 

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Exactly what I don't want to come across as. A CREEP! That was my first thought. I have no problem coming across as normal in any situation. But I think the fact I have a car and initially stop, she knows something is up, so it automatically puts her off guard.
I did start up a sick convo with this hot crazy ass driver though, but we were both in cars and I had a good conversation starter (she was a crazy good driver!)
 

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Darth said:
Ask for directions.
This...It's genius.

think about it, when is it ever ok for a person in a car to talk to a person walking? anything else you say is creepy. and make sure u don't ask directions or something creepy too.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lol, where's ALPHAROMEO?
 

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I just make eye contact, smile and say hi. =]
If she responds positively, then right after she passes me I say: "Do my good looks really intimidate you that much?" or "You can't just give me that look and smile and walk away." Both work like a charm and start a little giggling session, lol.
 

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I ask for directions to the library. I even had stupid *****es believe me at first when asked at 2am in the morning.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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