"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
diablo
Master Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Capt.Jack Sparrow
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
diablo
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It isn't the site that's at fault, as I see it - I'm guessing that virtually all of the people who are "completely single" haven't made the changes advised by most of the material out there, and instead have perused some of the articles in the DJB before thinking to themselves "I'll get the balls to start doing this later..."Originally posted by Jariel
Hmmm, that doesn't fill me with much faith in this site.
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i was single untill end of last year.. and i have been in under five relationships in my life.... but that was because i WANTED to be single... if i WANTED to be in a relationship (have a gf) then i could of had MANY gf's in the past... but i think that being single and missioning for new girls every day is alot more fun and entertaining. there is nothing wrong with being single BY CHOICE, but if you WANT to be in a relationship and are NOT, THEn u have reason to worry/seek help
atm i am in a rather serious relationship with a girl that i Do trully like, and i must admit though, that loving someone and have them love u back is alot better than just messing around with different girls every night... and i guess i'v had my share of girls on this earth, so i'll leave some of them for you guys
I'm so kind and sharing, i know.. feel free to thank me anytime Laterz...
Yes, you are most likely right.Originally posted by diablo
It isn't the site that's at fault, as I see it - I'm guessing that virtually all of the people who are "completely single" haven't made the changes advised by most of the material out there, and instead have perused some of the articles in the DJB before thinking to themselves "I'll get the balls to start doing this later..."
In all fairness, since visiting this site and applying some of the things I've learned, the attention from women and my ability to handle them has improved tremendously. Sometimes I lose sight of that.
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
Just because I'm single and not dating doesn't mean I don't get laid.Hmmm, that doesn't fill me with much faith in this site.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
one of the girls I mess around with a bit, but i'm still single
you're missing a couple categories
haha i'm glad im not one of the completely singles
thanks sosuave!! lol