"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Your dating status

What is your status?

  • I am completely single

    Votes: 45 57.7%
  • I'm dating one girl

    Votes: 18 23.1%
  • I'm dating several girls

    Votes: 8 10.3%
  • I'm in an LTR

    Votes: 5 6.4%
  • I'm engaged

    Votes: 1 1.3%
  • I'm married

    Votes: 1 1.3%

  • Total voters
    78

AverageFC

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Ok. Let's see how everyones doing. Although I think I know the answer to this.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Jariel

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Hmmm, that doesn't fill me with much faith in this site. :(

I'm just casually dating women, though by choice, I'd rather be in a LTR.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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affliction

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I've got a 1st date planned for tuesday night with a girl I met last week.
 

david90

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no suprise that most of us are single. Isn't that why we're here?
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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Well depends. Some are single by choice, it's not necessarily a sign of failure. You don't always meet someone you're interested in dating.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Wiesman44

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I date girls off an on. i'm dating one now. But my biggest problem is cheating on them. I'm in college, and the last 3 girls I've been with i've cheated on, and they broke up with me. Therefore, i consider myself single all through my college years, b/c my large johnson doesn't like to stay with one chick.
 

diablo

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Originally posted by Jariel
Hmmm, that doesn't fill me with much faith in this site. :(
It isn't the site that's at fault, as I see it - I'm guessing that virtually all of the people who are "completely single" haven't made the changes advised by most of the material out there, and instead have perused some of the articles in the DJB before thinking to themselves "I'll get the balls to start doing this later..." :rolleyes:

Anything Else...
 

Climax

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hmmm....

i was single untill end of last year.. and i have been in under five relationships in my life.... but that was because i WANTED to be single... if i WANTED to be in a relationship (have a gf) then i could of had MANY gf's in the past... but i think that being single and missioning for new girls every day is alot more fun and entertaining. there is nothing wrong with being single BY CHOICE, but if you WANT to be in a relationship and are NOT, THEn u have reason to worry/seek help;)

atm i am in a rather serious relationship with a girl that i Do trully like, and i must admit though, that loving someone and have them love u back is alot better than just messing around with different girls every night... and i guess i'v had my share of girls on this earth, so i'll leave some of them for you guys:p ;) I'm so kind and sharing, i know.. feel free to thank me anytime:)


Laterz...
 

Jariel

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Originally posted by diablo
It isn't the site that's at fault, as I see it - I'm guessing that virtually all of the people who are "completely single" haven't made the changes advised by most of the material out there, and instead have perused some of the articles in the DJB before thinking to themselves "I'll get the balls to start doing this later..." :rolleyes:
Yes, you are most likely right.

In all fairness, since visiting this site and applying some of the things I've learned, the attention from women and my ability to handle them has improved tremendously. Sometimes I lose sight of that.
 

TyTe`EyEs

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Hmmm, that doesn't fill me with much faith in this site. :(
Just because I'm single and not dating doesn't mean I don't get laid.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Kourt

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i'm dating a few girls, but I still consider myself single
one of the girls I mess around with a bit, but i'm still single

you're missing a couple categories

haha i'm glad im not one of the completely singles

thanks sosuave!! lol
 
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