"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Your dating status

What is your status?

  • I am completely single

    Votes: 45 57.7%
  • I'm dating one girl

    Votes: 18 23.1%
  • I'm dating several girls

    Votes: 8 10.3%
  • I'm in an LTR

    Votes: 5 6.4%
  • I'm engaged

    Votes: 1 1.3%
  • I'm married

    Votes: 1 1.3%

  • Total voters
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AverageFC

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Ok. Let's see how everyones doing. Although I think I know the answer to this.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Jariel

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Hmmm, that doesn't fill me with much faith in this site. :(

I'm just casually dating women, though by choice, I'd rather be in a LTR.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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affliction

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I've got a 1st date planned for tuesday night with a girl I met last week.
 

david90

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no suprise that most of us are single. Isn't that why we're here?
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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Well depends. Some are single by choice, it's not necessarily a sign of failure. You don't always meet someone you're interested in dating.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Wiesman44

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I date girls off an on. i'm dating one now. But my biggest problem is cheating on them. I'm in college, and the last 3 girls I've been with i've cheated on, and they broke up with me. Therefore, i consider myself single all through my college years, b/c my large johnson doesn't like to stay with one chick.
 

diablo

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Originally posted by Jariel
Hmmm, that doesn't fill me with much faith in this site. :(
It isn't the site that's at fault, as I see it - I'm guessing that virtually all of the people who are "completely single" haven't made the changes advised by most of the material out there, and instead have perused some of the articles in the DJB before thinking to themselves "I'll get the balls to start doing this later..." :rolleyes:

Anything Else...
 

Climax

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hmmm....

i was single untill end of last year.. and i have been in under five relationships in my life.... but that was because i WANTED to be single... if i WANTED to be in a relationship (have a gf) then i could of had MANY gf's in the past... but i think that being single and missioning for new girls every day is alot more fun and entertaining. there is nothing wrong with being single BY CHOICE, but if you WANT to be in a relationship and are NOT, THEn u have reason to worry/seek help;)

atm i am in a rather serious relationship with a girl that i Do trully like, and i must admit though, that loving someone and have them love u back is alot better than just messing around with different girls every night... and i guess i'v had my share of girls on this earth, so i'll leave some of them for you guys:p ;) I'm so kind and sharing, i know.. feel free to thank me anytime:)


Laterz...
 

Jariel

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Originally posted by diablo
It isn't the site that's at fault, as I see it - I'm guessing that virtually all of the people who are "completely single" haven't made the changes advised by most of the material out there, and instead have perused some of the articles in the DJB before thinking to themselves "I'll get the balls to start doing this later..." :rolleyes:
Yes, you are most likely right.

In all fairness, since visiting this site and applying some of the things I've learned, the attention from women and my ability to handle them has improved tremendously. Sometimes I lose sight of that.
 

TyTe`EyEs

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Hmmm, that doesn't fill me with much faith in this site. :(
Just because I'm single and not dating doesn't mean I don't get laid.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Kourt

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i'm dating a few girls, but I still consider myself single
one of the girls I mess around with a bit, but i'm still single

you're missing a couple categories

haha i'm glad im not one of the completely singles

thanks sosuave!! lol
 
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