"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Your biggest roadblock

What is your biggest roadblock?

  • Meeting 'buddies' (strictly school etc)

    Votes: 5 8.9%
  • Meeting REAL friends

    Votes: 10 17.9%
  • Meeting girls that like you

    Votes: 12 21.4%
  • Developing Conversational Skills (including humor)

    Votes: 18 32.1%
  • Developing social standards (ie dressing appropriately)

    Votes: 3 5.4%
  • Overcoming anxiety/low confidence

    Votes: 17 30.4%
  • Creating attraction

    Votes: 18 32.1%
  • Having meaningful relationships

    Votes: 11 19.6%
  • Other

    Votes: 6 10.7%

  • Total voters
    56

Nocturnal

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 21, 2002
Messages
2,438
Reaction score
7
Age
39
Call it 'research' if you will, but before writing a post I plan on putting quite a bit of effort into, I'd like to see what most people are having problems with. So, if it's in the poll, vote for it, and if it's not, post it.

Thanks for the input
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

Read more...

oakraiderz2

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 26, 2002
Messages
4,626
Reaction score
28
Age
40
Location
Colorado
Originally posted by nath
np
Whats that? Mine is just meating gilrs in general.
 

Beatflux

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 4, 2002
Messages
103
Reaction score
0
Location
Aurora, CO, USA
I think everyone would agree when I say emotion.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

Read more...

DJoneday

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 7, 2002
Messages
481
Reaction score
0
Age
39
I say relationships, my last two have gone to hell mostly because I lose interest after the chase...but I wouldn't mind settling down for a bit.
 

AC/DC

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 16, 2003
Messages
1,270
Reaction score
3
Age
38
Location
hyphy bay area, ca
Where's the "earning street credit" option and the "getting your name out there" option?

Those are way more important!
 
Joined
May 28, 2003
Messages
1,519
Reaction score
2
Age
40
Location
Nodferatu's Lair
meeting chicks and sometimes attracting maybe....I've been slacking hardcore lately and its not healthy.
 

Paranoid

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 23, 2003
Messages
281
Reaction score
0
Age
41
Location
Neverland
Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Whats that? Mine is just meating gilrs in general.
I guess its how you package your "meat" oaksy :D

Mine is sustaining interest...
 

Slimijs

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 20, 2003
Messages
234
Reaction score
0
Age
39
Location
in a great place
All of my old friends are hopeless AFC's and even my jerk friends have problems with chicks.

So I would like to have some great DJ buddies as wingmen.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

Read more...

Serg897

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 19, 2001
Messages
1,194
Reaction score
20
Age
39
Location
North America
looking through the possible choices, none of them really jump out at me right now. Maybe its becuase I have a great girlfriend right now......

but definately, Emotion is something I would choose
 

SuaveStarboy

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 28, 2003
Messages
97
Reaction score
0
for me its; meeting girls, low self-confidence, meeting girls that like me(all the girls that claim they like me flake on me), and creating attraction
 

SnatchJP

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 18, 2002
Messages
243
Reaction score
0
Location
A theater near you
Meeting REAL friends, Finding eligible/attractive girls.

In other words: Meeting girls that I like. (As opposed to "Meeting girls that like me")
 
Last edited:

Need-2-B-Pimpin

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 16, 2003
Messages
359
Reaction score
0
Mine are meeting chicks at all and getting some real friends, most of my school buds that I'm stuck with suck.
 

Brazilian_Blues_Boy

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 7, 2002
Messages
703
Reaction score
8
Age
40
Location
Brazil
Making REAL friends, and especially, making buddies

I'm a man repeller LOL! :D

Seriously, I must have a very "Hey I'm an arrogant a$shole" face, because wherever I go, guys don't like me... really... and I don't do much, I try to be nice with everyone...

Who knows? :confused:

BBB
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Top