"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Your biggest roadblock

What is your biggest roadblock?

  • Meeting 'buddies' (strictly school etc)

    Votes: 5 8.9%
  • Meeting REAL friends

    Votes: 10 17.9%
  • Meeting girls that like you

    Votes: 12 21.4%
  • Developing Conversational Skills (including humor)

    Votes: 18 32.1%
  • Developing social standards (ie dressing appropriately)

    Votes: 3 5.4%
  • Overcoming anxiety/low confidence

    Votes: 17 30.4%
  • Creating attraction

    Votes: 18 32.1%
  • Having meaningful relationships

    Votes: 11 19.6%
  • Other

    Votes: 6 10.7%

  • Total voters
    56

Nocturnal

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Call it 'research' if you will, but before writing a post I plan on putting quite a bit of effort into, I'd like to see what most people are having problems with. So, if it's in the poll, vote for it, and if it's not, post it.

Thanks for the input
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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oakraiderz2

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Originally posted by nath
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Whats that? Mine is just meating gilrs in general.
 

Beatflux

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I think everyone would agree when I say emotion.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJoneday

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I say relationships, my last two have gone to hell mostly because I lose interest after the chase...but I wouldn't mind settling down for a bit.
 

AC/DC

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Where's the "earning street credit" option and the "getting your name out there" option?

Those are way more important!
 
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meeting chicks and sometimes attracting maybe....I've been slacking hardcore lately and its not healthy.
 

Paranoid

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Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Whats that? Mine is just meating gilrs in general.
I guess its how you package your "meat" oaksy :D

Mine is sustaining interest...
 

Slimijs

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All of my old friends are hopeless AFC's and even my jerk friends have problems with chicks.

So I would like to have some great DJ buddies as wingmen.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Serg897

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looking through the possible choices, none of them really jump out at me right now. Maybe its becuase I have a great girlfriend right now......

but definately, Emotion is something I would choose
 

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for me its; meeting girls, low self-confidence, meeting girls that like me(all the girls that claim they like me flake on me), and creating attraction
 

SnatchJP

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Meeting REAL friends, Finding eligible/attractive girls.

In other words: Meeting girls that I like. (As opposed to "Meeting girls that like me")
 
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Need-2-B-Pimpin

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Mine are meeting chicks at all and getting some real friends, most of my school buds that I'm stuck with suck.
 

Brazilian_Blues_Boy

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Making REAL friends, and especially, making buddies

I'm a man repeller LOL! :D

Seriously, I must have a very "Hey I'm an arrogant a$shole" face, because wherever I go, guys don't like me... really... and I don't do much, I try to be nice with everyone...

Who knows? :confused:

BBB
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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