Trainwreck
Master Don Juan
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I would tell you, but it would cause an uproar/topic to be deleted. I'm not a 300 lb neck beard living in my moms basement for starters.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your biggest problem is that you were a social misfit and now you're lost.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
AlexKaiser
Don Juan
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An uproar eh? That makes it even more intriguing. -desire to know more intensifies-
SuckItUp
Senior Don Juan
Part of the problem are distorted views of the so called perfect life. Hell, Brad Pitt married a cluster B woman in Angelina Jolie.
Is growing up in this perceived "perfect" environment easier? Sure. Is it without problems? Absolutely not.
Yes, it is easier for some people, but unless you are dealing with mental issues like depression, bipolar disorder, ADD, Asperger's etc. there are things that you can do to work on yourself that are much more easily correctible than adjusting with mental health issues.
That's why guys need to work themselves to feel good about themselves before worrying about women.
Nobody here is saying conform or else. We're just saying here's how things work and here's what you can do.
Is growing up in this perceived "perfect" environment easier? Sure. Is it without problems? Absolutely not.
Yes, it is easier for some people, but unless you are dealing with mental issues like depression, bipolar disorder, ADD, Asperger's etc. there are things that you can do to work on yourself that are much more easily correctible than adjusting with mental health issues.
That's why guys need to work themselves to feel good about themselves before worrying about women.
Nobody here is saying conform or else. We're just saying here's how things work and here's what you can do.