"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Younger than 21, First Outing?

ILikeGirls<3

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 1, 2007
Messages
50
Reaction score
0
Where should I take a girl younger than 21 who cant drink yet, first time I'm calling her up? Movies dont give me much talk time for all those hours spent, so that leaves me with a restaurant is all I can think of. Ideally I would want to bring her somehwere private afterwards, so I dont want to be out for more than a couple hours. Any other suggestions?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

CrunchyNut

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 3, 2006
Messages
168
Reaction score
2
Location
England
Ice skating? Bowling?
 

L B

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 28, 2004
Messages
526
Reaction score
9
Location
OC
Don't know what you have access to, but have a picnic at a quiet scenic park or go to a secuded beach. They work every time.
 

Jaxon

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 27, 2007
Messages
205
Reaction score
5
ILikeGirls<3 said:
Where should I take a girl younger than 21 who cant drink yet, first time I'm calling her up? Movies dont give me much talk time for all those hours spent, so that leaves me with a restaurant is all I can think of. Ideally I would want to bring her somehwere private afterwards, so I dont want to be out for more than a couple hours. Any other suggestions?
It's all about action my man. Ice skating and bowling were mentioned and those are both good choices. Basically you want to do something where you both get a bit of adrenaline flowing and don't reveal too much of yourself through conversation.
 

Snow Plowman

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 18, 2006
Messages
1,229
Reaction score
39
Location
NY
My newest day2 is Target...I start roleplaying and creating a Conspiracy that were getting married and moving in together and we basically trick the staff and ask to see the TVs, dish washers, etc. An we decide on which ones we'd buy for our house. This takes about an hour or two depending how into it you get.

Then if she has crappy DVDs, I usually get a DVD and go to her house.

Before this it was going to a costume store lol but I find big stores like best buy, walmart, target, etc to be better places because its so big.

I personally don't do traditional dates because really I don't go to movies, haven't in 2 years. Only thing I actually do is go out to eat because I love food, so every so often I'd invite a chick to roll with me while I go eat. But it's rare that this is the first place I ever take a chick because I like to get sex out the way first before I make her do things with me in my life that would cost money.

By summer or whenever I get a break from school I'm taking cooking lessons, so my next day2 might be me going to her house and we both cook some food, watch a movie and sex.

Nothing can be done at my house because of parents and attack dogs lol.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Top