Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That seems like how it's working for me. When I was 21 the girls were as old as 35, and now that I'm 27 the girls are as young as 17...Originally posted by crazykid
Oh come on guys, if you are all banging 18 year olds, what are we 19 year olds supposed to go after?Guess we'll just have to take the older women then, since we DO have more stamina and are better.
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Yeesh.. no way. Those false teeth can really chaff a man's c*ck.Originally posted by Caveman
Good God! With the way things are going, you'll be dating a 120 yo by the time you are 40!![]()
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But i hear you. I'd rather have a mature woman over a young chicky any day.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Here is my experience:Originally posted by ER!C L!VE
I can't begin to tell you how fvcked up this way of thinking is. I'm 30 and am banging an 18yo now. She's in love with me as far as I can tell.
All girls are different. There are plenty of hot, young, 18yo girls who LOVE older men and even want to marry them.
Why are you telling me and every other person and NEWBIE in here they can't get or marry younger women if you're over a certain age?
Man, you are poisoning people's minds!
You get alot of respect on this board because you have excellect communication skills.
However, for the love of God, please stop expressing your negative opinions of older men dating younger women.
You have the ability to influence people, and I'd hate to see guys give up getting younger women because of your opinion.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Your suppose to wait ya turn. When us older and more experienced fellas get threw with em...we will give you lesser males a taste fella!Originally posted by crazykid
Oh come on guys, if you are all banging 18 year olds, what are we 19 year olds supposed to go after?Guess we'll just have to take the older women then, since we DO have more stamina and are better.
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LOL, yeah lets see how long they last...I forgot to add than when you have millions to play with and you got an 18 year old....your working with just a ho.Originally posted by ER!C L!VE
Don't tell that to Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas.
hehe j/k
OK Westcoaster,sorry it's been a while since I replied to this, my internet access is sketchy at best right now.Originally posted by WestCoaster
Do this, don't do that! Your attitude is negative, blah, blah, blah. It's not negative, I'm just posting opinions. Lighten the f' up!
Look, I'm commenting on the women here on this site, nowhere else and I certainly don't hit on my students or make comments to anyone else. This is a good place to vent ... well it used to be until everyone got so uptight here, including you comote.
Look, you notice the women, too, you're just classier than I am and am not commenting on their bodies. I've been called a few things in life ... blind ain't one of them.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.