So I am taking this seminar and there's this beautiful young gal who happens to have a crush on me. Part of me wants to pursue it in a platonic way to hone my game skills and have some fun with her as a friend. The other part of me says I should not lead her on, maybe even act a bit cold towards her so that she doesn't pursue this unduly and get her feelings hurt. What do you all think?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Young Gal Has Crush On Me
- Thread starter evesman
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
true romance
Don Juan
be a man.....flirt, have fun and bang her.
who cares her feeling..she is having too much fun with you...
Grab your balls..
who cares her feeling..she is having too much fun with you...
Grab your balls..
true romance
Don Juan
ask if she has an older sister?
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Why can't you tell us how young she is?evesman said:
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
Evesman, if u r older 20 sumthin or in 30's n she is 15 or 16 den stay away mr rkelly lol.... other den dat have ur fun n who cares
You know what, I had pretty much already decided against it over the weekend. Now, I don't want any hurt feelings or things to get weird during the seminar. I think I will just ignore her.
She was gaming me very hard. I was pretty much the passive recipient of her interest.
She was gaming me very hard. I was pretty much the passive recipient of her interest.
Whats wrong with leading her on?
How many girls have led you on just to break your heart?
You're only making excuses, if you were motivated enough to write a post about the chick then you most likely want to have something with her. So go do it. If you want to be a DJ you're gonna have to man up and break a lot of hearts, its all part of the game.
How many girls have led you on just to break your heart?
You're only making excuses, if you were motivated enough to write a post about the chick then you most likely want to have something with her. So go do it. If you want to be a DJ you're gonna have to man up and break a lot of hearts, its all part of the game.
If she is over 18 then go for it. I mean you don't always have to go around watching practically stranger's feelings so closely. I mean don't purposely have the intent on getting her to love you and then cheating on her on purpose, that would be malicious and intentional. But be a man flirt, have fun, bang her, whatever. You shouldn't have to watch yourself so carefully just because she is younger than you.
My rule is that they have to be legal, and after that I make sure I don't lie with the intentions or results of actually breaking their heart. If you are just flirtacious and never mention anything about it being serious, and if she asks you if its serious, as long as you are honest and say it is not, then you have nothing to lose. Just make sure she is legal, and then make sure you are not intentionally leading her on. If she makes assumptions and gets heart, then its her fault for making the assumptions
My rule is that they have to be legal, and after that I make sure I don't lie with the intentions or results of actually breaking their heart. If you are just flirtacious and never mention anything about it being serious, and if she asks you if its serious, as long as you are honest and say it is not, then you have nothing to lose. Just make sure she is legal, and then make sure you are not intentionally leading her on. If she makes assumptions and gets heart, then its her fault for making the assumptions
Well, I wasn't leading her on. I did look at her ONCE, and talk to her ONCE. Then she started gaming me hardcore. Following me around, stopping me, chasing me, giving me gah gah eyes, I didn't do anything at all, she just actively pursued me without any encouragement on my part.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
KingBeef
Master Don Juan
dude, seriously how old is she????
KingBeef
Master Don Juan
WHY ARE YOU PUNISHING YOURSELF??? It's funny not too long ago i was in the same boat, young educator she was about 21 yrs. old, me being almost 30. Showed me nothing but "come and get me" signs but i didn't do nothing why??? because i didn't want to crap where i eat (we work together) Well guess what she's talkin and flirtin with jerk guy and doesn't give me the time of day because i subconsciously rejected her (avoided her, etc.) and i feel that if given that second chance i would do the opposite and just get to know her. I kick myself in the head everytime i think about it. YOU DON'T GET A SECOND CHANCE WITH WOMEN.evesman said:
WHY ARE YOU PUNISHING YOURSELF???? THERE IS NO SIN INVOLVED WHEN 2 HUMAN BEINGS JUST WANT TO GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER A LITTLE BETTER. You should repeat this a million times in your head....
THERE IS NO SIN INVOLVED WHEN 2 HUMAN BEINGS JUST WANT TO GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER A LITTLE BETTER!!!!!!!!!!
BUT WITH YOUR ATTITUDE YOU'RE TELLING YOURSELF THAT YOU'RE NOT WORTHY OF HER OR EVEN WORTHY OF JUST TALKING WITH HER FOR 5 MINUTES.....WHY ARE YOU SHOOTING YOURSELF IN THE FOOT??....WHY IS THAT???
YOU'RE OVERANALYZING THINGS.......YOU'RE THINKING OF THE WORST SCENARIOS THAT HAVEN'T HAPPENED YET!!!! READ THAT LAST SENTENCE AND TELL ME IF THAT DOESN'T MAKE ANY SENSE??? TRY TO ENJOY THE COMPANY OF PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE.
If she's not of legal age then i understand completely, but this is the interesting part
SHE'S COMING ON TO YOU, SHE WANTS YOU...... Take her out somewhere to lunch, LET YOURSELF GO, BE COMFORTABLE and enjoy the present.
- Kingbeef
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if she is under 18 delete this thread.evesman said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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If you got to know her, you could find out how old she really is.
Based on what you just said, she's 16.evesman said:
And based on the way you have presented your post, she is MUCH younger than you (so she is more than 3 years older than you).
My suggestion, don't do anything (no flirting, because that only leads to one thing) unless you want to mess with the law.
A moderator should delete this thread.
Now hold on a minute. What state are you in? She could very well be legal:Axcell said:
Age Of Consent By State
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.