So I am taking this seminar and there's this beautiful young gal who happens to have a crush on me. Part of me wants to pursue it in a platonic way to hone my game skills and have some fun with her as a friend. The other part of me says I should not lead her on, maybe even act a bit cold towards her so that she doesn't pursue this unduly and get her feelings hurt. What do you all think?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Young Gal Has Crush On Me
- Thread starter evesman
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
true romance
Don Juan
be a man.....flirt, have fun and bang her.
who cares her feeling..she is having too much fun with you...
Grab your balls..
who cares her feeling..she is having too much fun with you...
Grab your balls..
true romance
Don Juan
ask if she has an older sister?
Vlad the Impaler
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Why can't you tell us how young she is?evesman said:
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
YoungSir4sho
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Evesman, if u r older 20 sumthin or in 30's n she is 15 or 16 den stay away mr rkelly lol.... other den dat have ur fun n who cares
You know what, I had pretty much already decided against it over the weekend. Now, I don't want any hurt feelings or things to get weird during the seminar. I think I will just ignore her.
She was gaming me very hard. I was pretty much the passive recipient of her interest.
She was gaming me very hard. I was pretty much the passive recipient of her interest.
Whats wrong with leading her on?
How many girls have led you on just to break your heart?
You're only making excuses, if you were motivated enough to write a post about the chick then you most likely want to have something with her. So go do it. If you want to be a DJ you're gonna have to man up and break a lot of hearts, its all part of the game.
How many girls have led you on just to break your heart?
You're only making excuses, if you were motivated enough to write a post about the chick then you most likely want to have something with her. So go do it. If you want to be a DJ you're gonna have to man up and break a lot of hearts, its all part of the game.
If she is over 18 then go for it. I mean you don't always have to go around watching practically stranger's feelings so closely. I mean don't purposely have the intent on getting her to love you and then cheating on her on purpose, that would be malicious and intentional. But be a man flirt, have fun, bang her, whatever. You shouldn't have to watch yourself so carefully just because she is younger than you.
My rule is that they have to be legal, and after that I make sure I don't lie with the intentions or results of actually breaking their heart. If you are just flirtacious and never mention anything about it being serious, and if she asks you if its serious, as long as you are honest and say it is not, then you have nothing to lose. Just make sure she is legal, and then make sure you are not intentionally leading her on. If she makes assumptions and gets heart, then its her fault for making the assumptions
My rule is that they have to be legal, and after that I make sure I don't lie with the intentions or results of actually breaking their heart. If you are just flirtacious and never mention anything about it being serious, and if she asks you if its serious, as long as you are honest and say it is not, then you have nothing to lose. Just make sure she is legal, and then make sure you are not intentionally leading her on. If she makes assumptions and gets heart, then its her fault for making the assumptions
Well, I wasn't leading her on. I did look at her ONCE, and talk to her ONCE. Then she started gaming me hardcore. Following me around, stopping me, chasing me, giving me gah gah eyes, I didn't do anything at all, she just actively pursued me without any encouragement on my part.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
KingBeef
Master Don Juan
dude, seriously how old is she????
KingBeef
Master Don Juan
WHY ARE YOU PUNISHING YOURSELF??? It's funny not too long ago i was in the same boat, young educator she was about 21 yrs. old, me being almost 30. Showed me nothing but "come and get me" signs but i didn't do nothing why??? because i didn't want to crap where i eat (we work together) Well guess what she's talkin and flirtin with jerk guy and doesn't give me the time of day because i subconsciously rejected her (avoided her, etc.) and i feel that if given that second chance i would do the opposite and just get to know her. I kick myself in the head everytime i think about it. YOU DON'T GET A SECOND CHANCE WITH WOMEN.evesman said:
WHY ARE YOU PUNISHING YOURSELF???? THERE IS NO SIN INVOLVED WHEN 2 HUMAN BEINGS JUST WANT TO GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER A LITTLE BETTER. You should repeat this a million times in your head....
THERE IS NO SIN INVOLVED WHEN 2 HUMAN BEINGS JUST WANT TO GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER A LITTLE BETTER!!!!!!!!!!
BUT WITH YOUR ATTITUDE YOU'RE TELLING YOURSELF THAT YOU'RE NOT WORTHY OF HER OR EVEN WORTHY OF JUST TALKING WITH HER FOR 5 MINUTES.....WHY ARE YOU SHOOTING YOURSELF IN THE FOOT??....WHY IS THAT???
YOU'RE OVERANALYZING THINGS.......YOU'RE THINKING OF THE WORST SCENARIOS THAT HAVEN'T HAPPENED YET!!!! READ THAT LAST SENTENCE AND TELL ME IF THAT DOESN'T MAKE ANY SENSE??? TRY TO ENJOY THE COMPANY OF PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE.
If she's not of legal age then i understand completely, but this is the interesting part
SHE'S COMING ON TO YOU, SHE WANTS YOU...... Take her out somewhere to lunch, LET YOURSELF GO, BE COMFORTABLE and enjoy the present.
- Kingbeef
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if she is under 18 delete this thread.evesman said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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If you got to know her, you could find out how old she really is.
Based on what you just said, she's 16.evesman said:
And based on the way you have presented your post, she is MUCH younger than you (so she is more than 3 years older than you).
My suggestion, don't do anything (no flirting, because that only leads to one thing) unless you want to mess with the law.
A moderator should delete this thread.
Now hold on a minute. What state are you in? She could very well be legal:Axcell said:
Age Of Consent By State
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.