So I am taking this seminar and there's this beautiful young gal who happens to have a crush on me. Part of me wants to pursue it in a platonic way to hone my game skills and have some fun with her as a friend. The other part of me says I should not lead her on, maybe even act a bit cold towards her so that she doesn't pursue this unduly and get her feelings hurt. What do you all think?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Young Gal Has Crush On Me
- Thread starter evesman
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
true romance
Don Juan
be a man.....flirt, have fun and bang her.
who cares her feeling..she is having too much fun with you...
Grab your balls..
who cares her feeling..she is having too much fun with you...
Grab your balls..
true romance
Don Juan
ask if she has an older sister?
Vlad the Impaler
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Why can't you tell us how young she is?evesman said:
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
YoungSir4sho
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Evesman, if u r older 20 sumthin or in 30's n she is 15 or 16 den stay away mr rkelly lol.... other den dat have ur fun n who cares
You know what, I had pretty much already decided against it over the weekend. Now, I don't want any hurt feelings or things to get weird during the seminar. I think I will just ignore her.
She was gaming me very hard. I was pretty much the passive recipient of her interest.
She was gaming me very hard. I was pretty much the passive recipient of her interest.
Whats wrong with leading her on?
How many girls have led you on just to break your heart?
You're only making excuses, if you were motivated enough to write a post about the chick then you most likely want to have something with her. So go do it. If you want to be a DJ you're gonna have to man up and break a lot of hearts, its all part of the game.
How many girls have led you on just to break your heart?
You're only making excuses, if you were motivated enough to write a post about the chick then you most likely want to have something with her. So go do it. If you want to be a DJ you're gonna have to man up and break a lot of hearts, its all part of the game.
If she is over 18 then go for it. I mean you don't always have to go around watching practically stranger's feelings so closely. I mean don't purposely have the intent on getting her to love you and then cheating on her on purpose, that would be malicious and intentional. But be a man flirt, have fun, bang her, whatever. You shouldn't have to watch yourself so carefully just because she is younger than you.
My rule is that they have to be legal, and after that I make sure I don't lie with the intentions or results of actually breaking their heart. If you are just flirtacious and never mention anything about it being serious, and if she asks you if its serious, as long as you are honest and say it is not, then you have nothing to lose. Just make sure she is legal, and then make sure you are not intentionally leading her on. If she makes assumptions and gets heart, then its her fault for making the assumptions
My rule is that they have to be legal, and after that I make sure I don't lie with the intentions or results of actually breaking their heart. If you are just flirtacious and never mention anything about it being serious, and if she asks you if its serious, as long as you are honest and say it is not, then you have nothing to lose. Just make sure she is legal, and then make sure you are not intentionally leading her on. If she makes assumptions and gets heart, then its her fault for making the assumptions
Well, I wasn't leading her on. I did look at her ONCE, and talk to her ONCE. Then she started gaming me hardcore. Following me around, stopping me, chasing me, giving me gah gah eyes, I didn't do anything at all, she just actively pursued me without any encouragement on my part.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
KingBeef
Master Don Juan
dude, seriously how old is she????
KingBeef
Master Don Juan
WHY ARE YOU PUNISHING YOURSELF??? It's funny not too long ago i was in the same boat, young educator she was about 21 yrs. old, me being almost 30. Showed me nothing but "come and get me" signs but i didn't do nothing why??? because i didn't want to crap where i eat (we work together) Well guess what she's talkin and flirtin with jerk guy and doesn't give me the time of day because i subconsciously rejected her (avoided her, etc.) and i feel that if given that second chance i would do the opposite and just get to know her. I kick myself in the head everytime i think about it. YOU DON'T GET A SECOND CHANCE WITH WOMEN.evesman said:
WHY ARE YOU PUNISHING YOURSELF???? THERE IS NO SIN INVOLVED WHEN 2 HUMAN BEINGS JUST WANT TO GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER A LITTLE BETTER. You should repeat this a million times in your head....
THERE IS NO SIN INVOLVED WHEN 2 HUMAN BEINGS JUST WANT TO GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER A LITTLE BETTER!!!!!!!!!!
BUT WITH YOUR ATTITUDE YOU'RE TELLING YOURSELF THAT YOU'RE NOT WORTHY OF HER OR EVEN WORTHY OF JUST TALKING WITH HER FOR 5 MINUTES.....WHY ARE YOU SHOOTING YOURSELF IN THE FOOT??....WHY IS THAT???
YOU'RE OVERANALYZING THINGS.......YOU'RE THINKING OF THE WORST SCENARIOS THAT HAVEN'T HAPPENED YET!!!! READ THAT LAST SENTENCE AND TELL ME IF THAT DOESN'T MAKE ANY SENSE??? TRY TO ENJOY THE COMPANY OF PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE.
If she's not of legal age then i understand completely, but this is the interesting part
SHE'S COMING ON TO YOU, SHE WANTS YOU...... Take her out somewhere to lunch, LET YOURSELF GO, BE COMFORTABLE and enjoy the present.
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if she is under 18 delete this thread.evesman said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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If you got to know her, you could find out how old she really is.
Based on what you just said, she's 16.evesman said:
And based on the way you have presented your post, she is MUCH younger than you (so she is more than 3 years older than you).
My suggestion, don't do anything (no flirting, because that only leads to one thing) unless you want to mess with the law.
A moderator should delete this thread.
Now hold on a minute. What state are you in? She could very well be legal:Axcell said:
Age Of Consent By State
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.