"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Young chick blowing up my phone

Zarky

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So I was "farming" POF as I usually do.. sending mass emails to random chicks.

I usually go for older chicks because they're easier, but apparently I sent something to a chick 12 years younger than myself.

After only 2 short emails (in one she said there were "too many crazy people" on POF) she gave me her cell number. I gave her mine back and since then she's been completely blowing up my phone with text messages.

To the point where if I don't get back to her within an hour or so she sends a "Are you there? What are you up to?" message.

I'm used to texting a couple of times to set up a meet and then silence until the meet. But I can't set something up with her right now because I'm booked solid for the next week.

Is this a mid-20s kind of thing? She's just sending me mundane observations and general chitchat. Older chicks don't do that until they feel we're in a bit of a "relationship." She's fairly attractive.. 8 body and 7 face. Partly Hispanic too, whom I don't usually date. Not sure if this has anything to do with it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Zarky said:
So I was "farming" POF as I usually do.. sending mass emails to random chicks.

I usually go for older chicks because they're easier, but apparently I sent something to a chick 12 years younger than myself.

After only 2 short emails (in one she said there were "too many crazy people" on POF) she gave me her cell number. I gave her mine back and since then she's been completely blowing up my phone with text messages.

To the point where if I don't get back to her within an hour or so she sends a "Are you there? What are you up to?" message.

I'm used to texting a couple of times to set up a meet and then silence until the meet. But I can't set something up with her right now because I'm booked solid for the next week.

Is this a mid-20s kind of thing? She's just sending me mundane observations and general chitchat. Older chicks don't do that until they feel we're in a bit of a "relationship." She's fairly attractive.. 8 body and 7 face. Partly Hispanic too, whom I don't usually date. Not sure if this has anything to do with it.

I hope you realize 99.999% of chicks who are on POF are nutjobs, sl0res etc.

That being said how do you know it's the chick in the pictures? Have her text you a pic of herself. She could have old pics up or someone elses and is desperate for a good looking dude.

Someone who texts random strangers that much after two emails is either a nut, desperate, not the person in the pictures and most likely all of it.

Chicks give out their numbers a lot on there to good looking dudes. But texting like crazy all the time? Somethings wrong..
 

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bro, I've been doing online dating for a decade, I think I know what's out there.

I'm specifically wondering, not about generalities regarding the "nutjobs" online, but about youngish 25 year olds who carry on extended text conversations. Is this the norm?
 

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This might be easier than you are making it out to be. I can think of two conclusions you should draw from this:

1) She has high interest and wants you on her radar.
2) She'll be a tease. Want your attention. Be a general flake towards any attempt to actually hang out.

Is it NORMAL? I would say that it isn't strange she is texting you a lot, but normally girls have a support network of numbers to choose from regardless. She is thinking about you so that has to be a plus. If she is like this even after you two agreed to hang out then why even bother getting coffee somewhere. Odds are she'll be DTF in 1 hour max.

Lemmie put it this way, girls send thousands of messages a month. There are "how fast can you text?" contests.

tl;dr

It's normal.
 

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^^^ cool thanks that addresses my question helpfully. I guess I'm curious as to how she could have high IL after basically 2 throwaway emails online. Which is why I'm wondering if it's standard practice for younger chicks to move the convo to text as soon as possible.

I guess I'll just have to wait and see. I usually can't relate at all to chicks under 30 so I guess I'm just worried about messing this one up, or losing interest myself if the chick keeps texting me all the time.

I'm guessing at this point she's looking for orbiters. I'll have to wait until I have a free night and can suggest something to do. If she disappears I'll know.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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