"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"you would make a good husband..."
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The Deacon
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The Deacon
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If a girl sat on your lap, twirled with her hair, giggled, and said "you would make a good husband," it's pretty obvious that she wants you.
If the girl just sat at the table across from you and said that, just nodding her head, not really doing any flirtacious gestures, she's probably not interested in you that way.
Sometimes though, girls leave really subtle hints. The girls you are dealing with may not really be confident in their ability to flirt, so it's possible that they are interested in you even if they didn't do any obvious flirting. Do you like any of the girls who said that you would make a good husband?
They are basically saying that some woman is going to pull the wool on you and you will do whatever it takes to make her happy. If you are the kind of guy that can be a pushover consider that a warning.
Jerks or players are never get called "you would make a good husband" but that doesn't mean the girls don't stop hooking up with them or try to change them.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The Deacon
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That's a pretty good point. SayWord? I'm assuming that the girls respect your diligence in school, but they probably don't see you as a potential romantic partner. This is just me talking out of experience, though. I wouldn't overanalyze this phrase since it doesn't really show interest nor disinterest. It sounds too much like a variation of the dreaded "you're a nice guy, but..." phraseDJDamage said:
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Notice that she didn't say you'd make a good boyfriend (W0manese: Stop stalling and ask me out jackass!/ I wanna get to know you better!) or will you marry me? (W0manese: You're hot! I want to be taken by YOU! NOW!)
Thanks for playing the game!
Sir Juanalot
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You're sexually a dud. You're not fun to be with. But you are... 'nice'.
A friend of mine responded to this line with, "And you're not the type of girl I'd marry, but you would be the type for a one night stand!
-----credit needs to be given here to Pook for posting this and it's in the bible
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Hello!Jitterbug said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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... and a good sandwich, oh btw, I'd like a beer too."Jitterbug said:
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she just left out the "but... " part.
Nothing against you but... I feel like you're my big brother...
or worst, one of my girlfriends...
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"You would make a good husband." was going to be followed by "but I am going get every hole I have filled, before i settle down." Or "but you aren't acting like a man so I'll save you till I am through experimenting."
Point is when a girl says crap like that, you aren't totally in the friend zone. Just take it instride and start acting like a man would act. An afc would get excited about it, or take it as an insult. You should take it as a compliment and a sign that there is atleast a little interest.
If you like her you should go for her(romantically/sexually), regardless of wether she thinks you would make a great "husband."
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.