The face shape and lips are similar to mine...but the nose and eyes are very different. My skin is in much better shape, too.Michele said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The face shape and lips are similar to mine...but the nose and eyes are very different. My skin is in much better shape, too.Michele said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Wouldn't it be easier just to shrug it off rather than hope that someone filters their peceptions to your level of acceptance?mahon83050 said:...
People should know better; when you want to say someone resembles someone, make sure the person is somewhat attractive. Some people are so dumb. I would know better than to tell some dude he looks like Andy D*ck.
I never said it was a bad thing, that's not the title of the thread. I don't have the high/low that he has and I'm shorter and stalker but I can see the reselmbencemahon83050 said:Getting called Will Smith is not exactly a bad thing, he is above average in looks.
Again...this is just what I have been told be people. I remembered another one I've heard too...Sheena EastonLl Principe said:No offense Wyldfire but to ME and I cant speak for others but my PERSONAL viewpoint of you is that you resemble nothing like someone famous or known i.e Shania Twain.
You resemble an average looking 30 year old?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
fvcker. He beat me to it.Ll Principe said:No offense Wyldfire but to ME and I cant speak for others but my PERSONAL viewpoint of you is that you resemble nothing like someone famous or known i.e Shania Twain.
You resemble an average looking 30 year old?
:crackup:KarmaSutra said:fvcker. He beat me to it.
Bird, you know damn well noone has ever mistaken you for Shania Twain.
Maybe Mark Twain?
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'm here to help because I offer a brutally honest unique perspective that would otherwise be lacking if not for my presence. While most women will feed you a line of BS of patronizing and ego-stroking fibs just because she thinks that's what you WANT to hear...I'll tell you the truth...even if it stings, pisses you off, offends you or hurts your feelings. For years women have been feeding men with a load of crap just so they look nice and sweet...and it hasn't served men very well. I don't do that. My honesty is the very thing that causes people like you to flame/attack me. While most guys on here would claim to want to hear the truth from a woman...some don't handle that truth very well when a woman speaks it.Deus ex Pianoforte said:I think it's disconcerting having someone contribute to a forum that doesn't belong on it. It really makes you wonder...what is a WOMAN doing on a self-help site for MEN? It's like a Democrat sitting in the audience of a Republican convention. A drug addict sitting in an Anger Management meeting. It's like...why?
What you and the few others who don't want me here need to realize and accept is that you are in the minority, NOT the majority. Flaming and attacking me will NEVER make me leave this site. All it will do is disrupt threads and lead people to get pissed at you and potentially cause the Mods to ban you.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Okay, I don't want to get off topic because the subject of you not being wanted on SoSuave is a tired old subject. You're not going to leave, no matter how many people make it obvious that this what we want, so we might as well just get back to talking about who we look like.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Deus ex Pianoforte said:Really? So if we create a poll about who wants women banned from the site, the MAJORITY would vote against it? If I pull up the threads in the past discussing banning women from the site, the MAJORITY are in favor of letting women post? For every example that I pull up of someone talking about how they don't want you here, you'll pull up two people stating that they DO?
Yes. We've established that. I hope you aren't insinuating that I'm flaming you. I think I've been pretty civil towards you, perhaps moreso than the average SoSuave poster.
The only poster I've seen that's against you being here get banned is KarmaSutra, and that was for what...3 days?
Rollo Tomassi said:KARMA can back me up on this, but I'm constantly being pegged for Bret Farve or Mark Wahlberg. I even had a screener in the Amsterdam airport ask me if I was related to Farve,..heh.
That could be a disadvantage seeing as Favre is notorious for being a whiny little biotch for a QB. I could see some overzealous Cheese Head being snarky to poor Rollo.KarmaSutra said:I totally see the Favre resemblance
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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.