The face shape and lips are similar to mine...but the nose and eyes are very different. My skin is in much better shape, too.Michele said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The face shape and lips are similar to mine...but the nose and eyes are very different. My skin is in much better shape, too.Michele said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Wouldn't it be easier just to shrug it off rather than hope that someone filters their peceptions to your level of acceptance?mahon83050 said:...
People should know better; when you want to say someone resembles someone, make sure the person is somewhat attractive. Some people are so dumb. I would know better than to tell some dude he looks like Andy D*ck.
I never said it was a bad thing, that's not the title of the thread. I don't have the high/low that he has and I'm shorter and stalker but I can see the reselmbencemahon83050 said:Getting called Will Smith is not exactly a bad thing, he is above average in looks.
Again...this is just what I have been told be people. I remembered another one I've heard too...Sheena EastonLl Principe said:No offense Wyldfire but to ME and I cant speak for others but my PERSONAL viewpoint of you is that you resemble nothing like someone famous or known i.e Shania Twain.
You resemble an average looking 30 year old?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
fvcker. He beat me to it.Ll Principe said:No offense Wyldfire but to ME and I cant speak for others but my PERSONAL viewpoint of you is that you resemble nothing like someone famous or known i.e Shania Twain.
You resemble an average looking 30 year old?
:crackup:KarmaSutra said:fvcker. He beat me to it.
Bird, you know damn well noone has ever mistaken you for Shania Twain.
Maybe Mark Twain?
:moon:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm here to help because I offer a brutally honest unique perspective that would otherwise be lacking if not for my presence. While most women will feed you a line of BS of patronizing and ego-stroking fibs just because she thinks that's what you WANT to hear...I'll tell you the truth...even if it stings, pisses you off, offends you or hurts your feelings. For years women have been feeding men with a load of crap just so they look nice and sweet...and it hasn't served men very well. I don't do that. My honesty is the very thing that causes people like you to flame/attack me. While most guys on here would claim to want to hear the truth from a woman...some don't handle that truth very well when a woman speaks it.Deus ex Pianoforte said:I think it's disconcerting having someone contribute to a forum that doesn't belong on it. It really makes you wonder...what is a WOMAN doing on a self-help site for MEN? It's like a Democrat sitting in the audience of a Republican convention. A drug addict sitting in an Anger Management meeting. It's like...why?
What you and the few others who don't want me here need to realize and accept is that you are in the minority, NOT the majority. Flaming and attacking me will NEVER make me leave this site. All it will do is disrupt threads and lead people to get pissed at you and potentially cause the Mods to ban you.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Okay, I don't want to get off topic because the subject of you not being wanted on SoSuave is a tired old subject. You're not going to leave, no matter how many people make it obvious that this what we want, so we might as well just get back to talking about who we look like.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Deus ex Pianoforte said:Really? So if we create a poll about who wants women banned from the site, the MAJORITY would vote against it? If I pull up the threads in the past discussing banning women from the site, the MAJORITY are in favor of letting women post? For every example that I pull up of someone talking about how they don't want you here, you'll pull up two people stating that they DO?
Yes. We've established that. I hope you aren't insinuating that I'm flaming you. I think I've been pretty civil towards you, perhaps moreso than the average SoSuave poster.
The only poster I've seen that's against you being here get banned is KarmaSutra, and that was for what...3 days?
Rollo Tomassi said:KARMA can back me up on this, but I'm constantly being pegged for Bret Farve or Mark Wahlberg. I even had a screener in the Amsterdam airport ask me if I was related to Farve,..heh.
That could be a disadvantage seeing as Favre is notorious for being a whiny little biotch for a QB. I could see some overzealous Cheese Head being snarky to poor Rollo.KarmaSutra said:I totally see the Favre resemblance
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.