"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"You need to open up more"

AmIAFC

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When a girl says this, does it mean I'm doing something right? I tell jokes, KINO, flirt a bit, but when she asks me question about myself, I answer in a vague/****y manner as to not spoil any mystery. Granted, I don't do it ALL the time, but only during those times where I sense she's eager to know what I was doing, like during the weekend and such. She gets irritated when I don't spoil the beans, usually saying, "Whatever."
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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C00L

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she wants to turn u AFC. stick to ur guns...i mean u gotta let her know some stuff...so feed her the appetizers but never a full course meal.
 

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+1 for what COOL said. Don't stonewall, but reveal information about yourself slowly & in small bits. Women love doing this detective work. And don't EVER talk about your hang-ups or childhood traumas. If she brings them up, e.g. suppose you grew up with no dad, minimize it by saying something like "Yeah it was hard but that was a long time ago."
 

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Yes it means she is interested in getting to know you better. You are on her mind.
 

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Originally posted by flexion_
Yes it means she is interested in getting to know you better. You are on her mind.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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