You make me feel safe

[phillies]

What do women mean when they say this?

 

[Desdinova]

It means they feel that you are their strength, their protector, and their man. In other words, they feel that you're confident and masculine.

 

[Tictac]

What do women mean when they say this?

It's a very good thing.

It means they feel that you are their strength, their protector, and their man. In other words, they feel that you're confident and masculine.

 

[dustmuffin]

You are giving her good feelz. It's a very positive thing.

 

[Von]

It means.... You are doing everything right and you might have a LTR with her if you continue to be like that.

She's starting to see the potential

 

[marmel75]

If you haven't already, she is giving you open season on tearing that pvssy up...

 

[dude99]

What do women mean when they say this?

It means you're doing it right.

 

[phillies]

Cool. Thanks for the feedback.

 

[BeExcellent]

It means she sees and feels the potential to be her feminine and vulnerable self with you, particularly emotionally and sexually. It means you are providing a framework in which she can be a woman with you and allow her to open her heart to you. This sets things up to build intimacy and connection, which is a lovely thing

 

[phillies]

I have a different opinion about this:

"You're a man, so I'm going to emotionally manipulate you into doing all of the heavy lifting, dirty work, etc."

"When we're lying in bed, and something goes bump in the night, I expect you to get up and make sure that nobody's trying to hurt me. And I expect you to sacrifice your life for me."

This is one of the things I wondered about. Like as in I make her feel secure, in a way a, beta gives a woman emotionally secure.

However I am a pretty ****y/ funny naturally. I enjoy teasing women a lot, I've always been this way.

As long as they don't mean safe as in not a challenge or something to that extent I think it's ok.

However I'm going to keep this in mind.

 

[dude99]

It means, in her perception, you are not just a man, but you are a MAN.

Or not "a man," but "The Man."

 

[CrimsonPanther]

What do women mean when they say this?

a chick told this to me yesterday after i boned her, and it seemed pretty positive, so i guess it's a good thing.

 

[El Payaso]

It's a way for her to activate your captain save a hoe senses. Block it out.

 

[fastlife]

If you haven't slept with her, it's prime friend zone.

If it's right after sex, it's oxytocin.

If she's BPD, she's working your ego (don't be surprised when you hear "I just don't feel safe around you" later on).

 

[l__i__l]

Or she may view you as her brother.

 

[phillies]

If you haven't slept with her, it's prime friend zone.

If it's right after sex, it's oxytocin.

If she's BPD, she's working your ego (don't be surprised when you hear "I just don't feel safe around you" later on).

Makes sense.

 

[MrWood]

it is a precursor to her seeing you in a LTR, and the sexual stuff mentioned. Every LTR for me lately she has said this before even fvcking.

yes, it is a good thing, or bad if you not into her.

 

[wifehunter]

Good news!!! But, do you feel safe with her?

 

[fastlife]

It's the exact opposite, in my perspective. To me, it is a woman asking for escalation.

I could see how that could be the case for some women--especially women who are predisposed (at least subconsciously) to equate sex with the inherent need for provisioning and security that comes along with the risk of getting pregnant. In nature, that'd certainly be the case.

But those women, at least in the age group I deal with, are the minority (if they exist at all lol). Girls have an overabundance of security--regardless of their decisions. They're free to pursue arousal without concern for rational considerations--and they do. And uncertainty, possible danger, fear of loss, and unpredictability are arousing.

The most obvious context in my experience, when a girl says, "You make me feel safe," and you haven't slept with her, it would roughly translate to, You're reliable and respectful and not like those other guys who I perceive as sexual threats; I can hang out with you without worrying that you'll seduce me or escalate and that's really nice (for right now) after being pumped and dumped by a couple *******s, who I always felt insecure around because I knew they had options and might not answer my next text. Maybe you'll make a good boyfriend, but my standards for boyfriends are super high and rooted in fantasy so jump through all these hoops but by then you won't measure up or I'll lose interest, but I don't know why cause you're such a great guy. Oh, well...

I've had a girl or two put me in that box (totally delusional & wistful thinking on their part), usually as they are nearing their expiration of prime SMV; I usually drop out at that point or they get pissed off when I escalate. On the other hand, girls that I end up sleeping with usually say things like, "I never know what you're thinking," "But then I'll never hear from you again" "That's what you say to every girl," etc. Even if I overdo it and they drop off, those are the girls that I can hit up a couple months later to 'catch up.'

I think if you hit a happy medium with a girl who's earned commitment and she said something like that, then it would be a positive. And again, my experience with women tops out at about age 22; I'm sure that by the time they're in their late 20's their priorities shift to where 'safety' becomes more and more valuable.

 

[Atom Smasher]

@LiveYourDream , I have two questions, as I think your perspective as a female might be helpful here.

1) In your opinion is there something to what fastlife says above, that her saying "You make me feel safe" before sleeping with her means you're on the fast rack to the friend zone?

2) What are ways that a man can make a woman experience that feeling of safety with him?