You make me feel relaxed

[jhonny9546]

Women around me, lovers, friends, even cousins, often say things like:

• “You make me feel relaxed.”
• “You’re so calm, it puts me at ease.”
• “You’re quiet, and it helps me unwind.”

After that, they open up completely, talk non-stop, and rarely break eye contact. It feels like they reach a level of intimacy and don’t want to leave the interaction. It is like that their emotional chaos settles in the presence of someone calm and grounded.

In my teens, I was often used as an emotional sponge. But after learning about boundaries, through SoSuave and similar sources, I’ve learned to listen without trying to fix everything. Being calm and nonjudgmental is rare and attractive, once women feel you won’t let them drain you, they respect that even more.

What's your mileage on this?

 

[jhonny9546]

listening to her and then be a sexual

That is actually built in within me, but how do you make it sexual, while keeping that connection is so hard to not broke their "confidential state" to have her to say to you "oh, so you was listening me, just to **** me"?

 

[BaronOfHair]

Women around me, lovers, friends, even cousins, often say things like:

• “You make me feel relaxed.”
• “You’re so calm, it puts me at ease.”
• “You’re quiet, and it helps me unwind.”

After that, they open up completely, talk non-stop, and rarely break eye contact. It feels like they reach a level of intimacy and don’t want to leave the interaction. It is like that their emotional chaos settles in the presence of someone calm and grounded.

In my teens, I was often used as an emotional sponge. But after learning about boundaries, through SoSuave and similar sources, I’ve learned to listen without trying to fix everything. Being calm and nonjudgmental is rare and attractive, once women feel you won’t let them drain you, they respect that even more.

What's your mileage on this?

Consider going into the priesthood. I hear Catholic Europe is desperate for native clergy

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Women around me, lovers, friends, even cousins, often say things like:

• “You make me feel relaxed.”
• “You’re so calm, it puts me at ease.”
• “You’re quiet, and it helps me unwind.”

After that, they open up completely, talk non-stop, and rarely break eye contact. It feels like they reach a level of intimacy and don’t want to leave the interaction. It is like that their emotional chaos settles in the presence of someone calm and grounded.

In my teens, I was often used as an emotional sponge. But after learning about boundaries, through SoSuave and similar sources, I’ve learned to listen without trying to fix everything. Being calm and nonjudgmental is rare and attractive, once women feel you won’t let them drain you, they respect that even more.

What's your mileage on this?

I dont know man....

arent you worried about getting friendzoned?

In my experience women are like cats, they dont eat where they shyt.
While they may enjoy dumping their emotional baggage at the comforting guy, they will rather fvck the guy that stirs excitement and all kinds of emotions in them.

I mean if it works for you to be that " soothing, nice guy" its cool. Does it work though? Do these women put out?

 

[jhonny9546]

I don't know man....



aren't you worried about getting friendzoned?



In my experience women are like cats, they don't eat where they shy.

While they may enjoy dumping their emotional baggage at the comforting guy, they will rather fvck the guy that stirs excitement and all kinds of emotions in them.



I mean if it works for you to be that "soothing, nice guy" its cool. Does it work though? Do these women put out?

I'm like that by nature.
I can only become more sexual, or interrupt/divert conversational topics, when I understand that he is using me as an emotional buffer.

I'm not as good a guy as I used to be, I understand what you mean.



Sure there are women who do this, and they prefer the exciting one, that keeps them on edge, that repels them, but you want this woman as a STR and I'm aiming for LTRs.

He said it well

I do wanna put this c0ck deep inside of you, but you are also interesting to talk to

 

[ThisIsSparta]

I'm like that by nature.
I can only become more sexual, or interrupt/divert conversational topics, when I understand that he is using me as an emotional buffer.

I'm not as good a guy as I used to be, I understand what you mean.



Sure there are women who do this, and they prefer the exciting one, that keeps them on edge, that repels them, but you want this woman as a STR and I'm aiming for LTRs.

He said it well

I understand were you are coming from and i am not judging.

If it works for you, do it.

BUT..... have you actually tried it that way? Did you get STRs/ONSs out of it? How did your LTRs work out with that approach?


For me, even in LTRs (and i had 1 year, 3, years 5 years, 13 years+) i fared way better (more respect and more desire from them) when i didnt comfort them in a way of being their "emotional dumpster". After all, women dont want you to solve their drama anyway. In fact most women need drama in their life and in absence they will create it.