thederekeffect1
Master Don Juan
We think too much.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
This is basically my theory. I've gotten to the point where I don't worry about stuff like that. If its gonna happen to me, it will. Not much I can do to change it; I'm only one person.Originally posted by FRëSHURE
I dont think there is a problem with the world.
..well obviously there are world problems, but they don't affect me.
I figure if a terrorist is going to kill me, worrying about it won't do much.
I figure if my petrol (gas) becomes so expensive I can't drive, I won't drive.
I figure if some natural disaster is going to wipe out my families home, aint much I can do about it.
However, I do feel for the people these things happen to, aswell as everyone else it affects.
But aint nothing I can do, so might aswell concentrate on having a good time.
uninformed people need to be told how to think.Originally posted by Boner da Stoner
We think more than enough, we just don't think properly. We think what others tell us to think, even if their own logic is wrong. We think not about what we SHOULD be doing, but what we WANT to be doing.
I wish people would put as much effort into thinking about what will happen after they use their credit card to buy something they don't need as they do about wheather someone of the opposite sex likes them.Originally posted by Señor Fingers
We all think too much...the problem is that most of us don't think about the right things.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.