thederekeffect1
Master Don Juan
We think too much.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This is basically my theory. I've gotten to the point where I don't worry about stuff like that. If its gonna happen to me, it will. Not much I can do to change it; I'm only one person.Originally posted by FRëSHURE
I dont think there is a problem with the world.
..well obviously there are world problems, but they don't affect me.
I figure if a terrorist is going to kill me, worrying about it won't do much.
I figure if my petrol (gas) becomes so expensive I can't drive, I won't drive.
I figure if some natural disaster is going to wipe out my families home, aint much I can do about it.
However, I do feel for the people these things happen to, aswell as everyone else it affects.
But aint nothing I can do, so might aswell concentrate on having a good time.
uninformed people need to be told how to think.Originally posted by Boner da Stoner
We think more than enough, we just don't think properly. We think what others tell us to think, even if their own logic is wrong. We think not about what we SHOULD be doing, but what we WANT to be doing.
I wish people would put as much effort into thinking about what will happen after they use their credit card to buy something they don't need as they do about wheather someone of the opposite sex likes them.Originally posted by Señor Fingers
We all think too much...the problem is that most of us don't think about the right things.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.