thederekeffect1
Master Don Juan
We think too much.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
This is basically my theory. I've gotten to the point where I don't worry about stuff like that. If its gonna happen to me, it will. Not much I can do to change it; I'm only one person.Originally posted by FRëSHURE
I dont think there is a problem with the world.
..well obviously there are world problems, but they don't affect me.
I figure if a terrorist is going to kill me, worrying about it won't do much.
I figure if my petrol (gas) becomes so expensive I can't drive, I won't drive.
I figure if some natural disaster is going to wipe out my families home, aint much I can do about it.
However, I do feel for the people these things happen to, aswell as everyone else it affects.
But aint nothing I can do, so might aswell concentrate on having a good time.
uninformed people need to be told how to think.Originally posted by Boner da Stoner
We think more than enough, we just don't think properly. We think what others tell us to think, even if their own logic is wrong. We think not about what we SHOULD be doing, but what we WANT to be doing.
I wish people would put as much effort into thinking about what will happen after they use their credit card to buy something they don't need as they do about wheather someone of the opposite sex likes them.Originally posted by Señor Fingers
We all think too much...the problem is that most of us don't think about the right things.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.