"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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you know how flaking puts guys on edge

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Ok...like when a girl flakes on dudes...dudes get butt hurt and whatever.
What if I start cancelling dates that seem to have IL.
Ok....she keeps texting. Making sure we are good to go for friday.
But I might have to cancel last minute.
When I cancel last minute, will that moist the panties more or less?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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thatfeel

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You'll have a better outcome by just making yourself less available than by wasting your time with a "fake" flake. Chances are most girls already have other dudes lined up waiting to go. Unless you have a legit reason to cancel last minute of course, like a relative is in a really bad accident and needs help or something.
 

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Well...it's not a fake flake . .work seems to be needing me the next day in the a.m. so I'm leaning towards cancelling on her so I'm well rested.

Except, she's 90 kg of freaky and I want that.
And she's been checking in to make sure it's a go for friday.

So would flaking raise her interest like it does these dudes who always ask about flaking girls
 

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Some of the things that apply to men doesn't apply to women because of their numerous options.

Honestly flaking does not increase interest level if anything flaking reduces interest level if the person flaked on has much value.

I like a girl less if she flakes or shows any sign of low quality.

If she wants to see you, strike while its hot.

Use work as a good excuse.

Meet with her talk a bit then invite her to the crib to relax, she already knows you're tired from work and would justify your request as "reasonable" therefore not triggering ASD.
 

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The last 2 times girls flaked on me I banged other plates that night. I nexted both of them and hadn't had sex with either of them but I wanted to go out so I set up a date with someone else, now switch to women who will almost always have a bunch of options and you get the picture. If you're getting them all hot and bothered wanting to go on the date and you cancel they are probably going to turn that onto someone else more often then not.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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90kg? thats 40kg too much for me, My god, she's either 7 ft tall or a real porker
 

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Fake flakes won't faze most women, given the amount of options they have.

It's no different than claiming you nexted a girl you haven't f**ked. You really just moved on because you saw she wasn't interested.
 

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Well...it's not a fake flake . .work seems to be needing me the next day in the a.m. so I'm leaning towards cancelling on her so I'm well rested.

Except, she's 90 kg of freaky and I want that.
And she's been checking in to make sure it's a go for friday.

So would flaking raise her interest like it does these dudes who always ask about flaking girls
I about threw up in my mouth after reading 90kg...good grief...
 
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