Dhoulmagus
Banned
- Joined
- Sep 11, 2013
- Messages
- 1,695
- Reaction score
- 169
No point in trying to figure out the mystery, but most likely there was another guy.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You don't need a reason why she lost interest
- Thread starter Dhoulmagus
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
disagree, you must first ascertain if it was you or her, and if it was you, what you did so you can learn and grow, and if it was her, what red flags/warning signs you missed so you don't run into that problem/girls like her again.
Dhoulmagus
Banned
- Joined
- Sep 11, 2013
- Messages
- 1,695
- Reaction score
- 169
How will you really know unless you beg for an answer. Even if you do get an answer it will most likely be bull ****. Most likely its sloot logic or another guy. If you ******* up than the answer would be apparent.devilkingx2 said:
Ya, I mean if it is something you did and is straight up obvious enough to think to yourself "Uhhh... that probably wasn't the best thing I could have done" then learn from it. But if no reason immediately comes to mind, forget about it and move on. Wasting time trying to figure out the whys of a woman's emotional roller coaster is exactly that, a waste of time.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.