is Richard your real name
because I thought yes at first
and now I realise theres a word RICH'ard in it, its very congruent with your money obsesion
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You can't be alpha as possible and be in a relationship
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because I thought yes at first
and now I realise theres a word RICH'ard in it, its very congruent with your money obsesion
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Exactly. It’s one of those paradoxical things: An alpha would never worry about whether they were acting alpha or not or what impression they made on 1 girl out of 4 billion.
Starting out, it’s a useful distinction. But at a certain point, you have to drop it. It keeps you in reaction to external stimuli in hopes to gain validation (Alpha Behavior from a Beta Mindset). Do what’s authentic to you and what’s aligned with your purposes (but put in the work & experimentation & use whatever labels you need to figure out what those are).
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
"You can't be alpha as possible and be in a relationship"
how about:
how about:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
