"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yo! I just came out of a 2.5+ year of relationship. Tell me the biggest changes of the dating world

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I would like to know how the dynamic of the world has change in the past 2-3 years. I havent been in the market and just been focusing on my career and the relationship.

Now I can bang some hotties while working on my career so what has been the biggest changes?

When I say dynamic of the world, I mean the dating world. If theres something interesting about the world as a whole, you can share them too.

For example do people even go out to bars anymore? How common has ons become? What is the role of tinder and online dating? Are day game and cold approaches still in? I mean do girls even hang out outside anymore... And so on..

What stuff are you spamming that results positively?

I have to add: it's my lifestyle to pick up girls. I do it everywhere as long as it doesn't hinder my life and career in a bad way so give me some ideas where chicks spent time nowadays.

I'm not looking for basic knowledge of don juan, just how the dynamic of the world has changed. Heck, I'm pretty confident ive mastered the advanced don juan skills and mindset. Has women become more egoistic? Has feminist grown to what extent?
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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In the first place how does it matter if one is 18 or 81? Secondly, I was 18 when I joined this site which is 3 years ago if that somehow makes you feel better.

Now start giving some proper answers or gtfo, hihi.
Because at your age you don't even know what you don't know.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Have you been hiding in a hole for two years or how does your question arise as a self-proclaimed pick-up lifestyler?
Like I said I have been in a relationship for 2-3 years so I havent been out living the single life.

What I am trying to get out of this thread is TOOLS. When you are in a mesningful relationship, you don't need those tools that you need when you are single. I am just trying to figure out what tools work in 2016.
 

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Cold approaching, social game and tinder work just fine ;)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I remember you, haven't seen you active here in a long time...

Pretty much nothing has changed in my opinion. How you got your girlfriend in the first place would still be effective today.
 

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Like I said I have been in a relationship for 2-3 years so I havent been out living the single life.

What I am trying to get out of this thread is TOOLS. When you are in a mesningful relationship, you don't need those tools that you need when you are single. I am just trying to figure out what tools work in 2016.
The same ones that have worked since the beginning of time.
 

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Like I said I have been in a relationship for 2-3 years so I havent been out living the single life.

What I am trying to get out of this thread is TOOLS. When you are in a mesningful relationship, you don't need those tools that you need when you are single. I am just trying to figure out what tools work in 2016.
With modern day relation life the single life is like the apple in the garden of eden. You still need some single tools, the ones dealing with attraction, and some dealing with some working their emotions. You have to keep them interested and sink the hook in deeper sometimes, because people get complacent.
 

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With modern day relation life the single life is like the apple in the garden of eden. You still need some single tools, the ones dealing with attraction, and some dealing with some working their emotions. You have to keep them interested and sink the hook in deeper sometimes, because people get complacent.
Yes nice.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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