"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Vincent

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Hey.

Just reading through the old posts about it, and i didn't really find a definitive answer reg avatars.

Perhaps people would post some porn and you don't want to have to scan everyones avatars for approval, but why not make a rule, if its obscene you get banned? No warning nothing. I mean they might get away with it for a little while, but in all honesty, no one would waste there time. Especially if you made it that you could only get an avatar at like 100 or senior ranking.

Avatars are cool because they really accentuate the person, its kinda like Evil-roms nifty map of australia, that i'm sure took forever to do, but still.

Bandwith is also a major problem, but if there source is based somewhere else, is it really a huge concern

I would love to get an avatar, that would be totally kickin rad :D

Your lovable,
--Vincent
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey anyone wanna read my post? please?
 

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Originally posted by Vincent
Hey anyone wanna read my post? please?
Read it. If you've seen posts before and we STILL don't have avatars, take that as the answer. :D
 

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aww now i'm depressed
 

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Yeah! Avatars would be FUN! Would it REALLY be such a big problem to have them?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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