"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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AustinG

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me and a girl had a year relationship. i messed up alot of times becuase i promised 2 be faithful to her but i had sex with 2 girls and messed around with about 5 others during that year. I told her about afew but not all. you know once a dj its hard to stop lol. But anyways we recently broke up becuase she doesnt get the feelings for me she used to a.k.a i just want to be friends. She still wants to talk to me and sit with me alone and **** at lunch like we would every once in a rare time during the relationship. What does this mean? Im getting mixed signals becuase she claims she is over me 100% but still wants to talk all the time and all the type of stuff you would in a relationship. I want another chance to be in a relationship with her but i dont know how to take upon that. What should i do. drop contact, talk to again in afew months if so how many? keep contact(an do what?). Im asking for you guy's advice on this becuase i havent been in this situation before. I plan on getting back into the feild. The last 5 months of the relationship I was faithful so you know my DJ skills rusted up. Give me some tips for a fast recovery with it and what to do about the relationship. Thanks!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Patrick124

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well tips for a fast recovery? party hard, get that cute girl form ur math class' # that u've been eyeing and set up a date. try n chill with girls from different schools, they're more fun.
 

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AustinG said:
me and a girl had a year relationship. i messed up alot of times becuase i promised 2 be faithful to her but i had sex with 2 girls and messed around with about 5 others during that year. I told her about afew but not all. you know once a dj its hard to stop lol.
Do not disrepect the name of a DJ, or place a DJ label on cheating.

Move on, enjoy life for god's sake. For starters, even if you do get back with her, you have to live with the fact she only knows about half of your cheating.

You're nothing more than a friend to her now. Don't drag yourself through the mud in an attempt to get her back.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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