"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So i started approaching about a month and a half ago and stopped in late august (long story) but while i was approaching i was feeling really good and became much more social. However from not approaching for a few weeks i went back to my old ways and it got me thinking. I shouldn't need approaching to be happy. When people say you need to develop inner game.. does that come from approaching? what i mean is that, i was becoming comfortable socially, confident.. etc. So was i developing inner game?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bump..
is my original question hard to understand? it was hard to put into words.
 
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steve_erkle said:
So i started approaching about a month and a half ago and stopped in late august (long story) but while i was approaching i was feeling really good and became much more social. However from not approaching for a few weeks i went back to my old ways and it got me thinking. I shouldn't need approaching to be happy. When people say you need to develop inner game.. does that come from approaching? what i mean is that, i was becoming comfortable socially, confident.. etc. So was i developing inner game?
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Look dude, for me, ALL my inner game came from approaching many many times, creeping some girls out, then getting good, getting #closes, getting dates, making more friends etc.

When you meet new people (guys or girls) and they LIKE you, it obviously adds to your inner game. This doesn't mean you should DEPEND on getting validation from THEM all the time. But, socializing in any shape or form, is a boost to personality and inner game.

I hope this answers your question. cheers!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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