"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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steve_erkle

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So i started approaching about a month and a half ago and stopped in late august (long story) but while i was approaching i was feeling really good and became much more social. However from not approaching for a few weeks i went back to my old ways and it got me thinking. I shouldn't need approaching to be happy. When people say you need to develop inner game.. does that come from approaching? what i mean is that, i was becoming comfortable socially, confident.. etc. So was i developing inner game?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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steve_erkle

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bump..
is my original question hard to understand? it was hard to put into words.
 

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steve_erkle said:
So i started approaching about a month and a half ago and stopped in late august (long story) but while i was approaching i was feeling really good and became much more social. However from not approaching for a few weeks i went back to my old ways and it got me thinking. I shouldn't need approaching to be happy. When people say you need to develop inner game.. does that come from approaching? what i mean is that, i was becoming comfortable socially, confident.. etc. So was i developing inner game?
Look dude, for me, ALL my inner game came from approaching many many times, creeping some girls out, then getting good, getting #closes, getting dates, making more friends etc.

When you meet new people (guys or girls) and they LIKE you, it obviously adds to your inner game. This doesn't mean you should DEPEND on getting validation from THEM all the time. But, socializing in any shape or form, is a boost to personality and inner game.

I hope this answers your question. cheers!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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