"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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steve_erkle

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So i started approaching about a month and a half ago and stopped in late august (long story) but while i was approaching i was feeling really good and became much more social. However from not approaching for a few weeks i went back to my old ways and it got me thinking. I shouldn't need approaching to be happy. When people say you need to develop inner game.. does that come from approaching? what i mean is that, i was becoming comfortable socially, confident.. etc. So was i developing inner game?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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bump..
is my original question hard to understand? it was hard to put into words.
 

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steve_erkle said:
So i started approaching about a month and a half ago and stopped in late august (long story) but while i was approaching i was feeling really good and became much more social. However from not approaching for a few weeks i went back to my old ways and it got me thinking. I shouldn't need approaching to be happy. When people say you need to develop inner game.. does that come from approaching? what i mean is that, i was becoming comfortable socially, confident.. etc. So was i developing inner game?
Look dude, for me, ALL my inner game came from approaching many many times, creeping some girls out, then getting good, getting #closes, getting dates, making more friends etc.

When you meet new people (guys or girls) and they LIKE you, it obviously adds to your inner game. This doesn't mean you should DEPEND on getting validation from THEM all the time. But, socializing in any shape or form, is a boost to personality and inner game.

I hope this answers your question. cheers!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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