I think im an idiot but whenever i think of a ****y guy i think of a very arrogant guy. I'm not one to be arrogant and being ****y is hard for me. This makes pulling off C+F combo hard for me. So i was thinking for of the ****yness thing and it just resembles arrogance so can someone set me straight here. Whats the fine line between arrogance and ****yness or are they infact the same thing?
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****y or Arrogant?
- Thread starter Aerix
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
try being sarcastic while being ****y. Some people don't get it but if your ****y in a silly non serious voice it helps lighten the mood. Works like a charm for me. It helps with humor too. Remember Humor = 2 things that dont fit together.
****Y should not make you look arrogant. It should make you look confident in yourself and not scared of showing it non-abrasively. The C+F additude and mindset says you're a kickback guy and aren't scared of showing who you are and being proud of what you are. Arrogant people are just jackasses and that's different. ****y should be a mindset not something you are when you're being mean or being too into yourself. You need to believe in yourself and that attracts.
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It's ****y and funny becuase it's ment to be a balance between Nice-guy and jerk. Cause you really don't want to be either. More of an inbetween.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Cloud-uk
Master Don Juan
My 50 pence...
What you want to be in confident in your abilities and not taking yourself too seriously. ****y & funny can be a bit missleading.
You want to be confident in your abilities, but not care so much you won't push comfort limits. This produces a guy who might act a little bit ****y, where I guess a better word may be playful, but this is based on a deep inner conviction that when it comes to women, he can get away with it, because he is good.
What you want to be in confident in your abilities and not taking yourself too seriously. ****y & funny can be a bit missleading.
You want to be confident in your abilities, but not care so much you won't push comfort limits. This produces a guy who might act a little bit ****y, where I guess a better word may be playful, but this is based on a deep inner conviction that when it comes to women, he can get away with it, because he is good.