"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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****y or Arrogant?

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I think im an idiot but whenever i think of a ****y guy i think of a very arrogant guy. I'm not one to be arrogant and being ****y is hard for me. This makes pulling off C+F combo hard for me. So i was thinking for of the ****yness thing and it just resembles arrogance so can someone set me straight here. Whats the fine line between arrogance and ****yness or are they infact the same thing?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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try being sarcastic while being ****y. Some people don't get it but if your ****y in a silly non serious voice it helps lighten the mood. Works like a charm for me. It helps with humor too. Remember Humor = 2 things that dont fit together.
 
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****Y should not make you look arrogant. It should make you look confident in yourself and not scared of showing it non-abrasively. The C+F additude and mindset says you're a kickback guy and aren't scared of showing who you are and being proud of what you are. Arrogant people are just jackasses and that's different. ****y should be a mindset not something you are when you're being mean or being too into yourself. You need to believe in yourself and that attracts.
 
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And the C+F needs to be mostly Funny with some ****yness throw in once in a while.
 
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It's ****y and funny becuase it's ment to be a balance between Nice-guy and jerk. Cause you really don't want to be either. More of an inbetween.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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thanks for clearing that up. i gotta test the new dj skills i learn for tomorrow
 
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My 50 pence...

What you want to be in confident in your abilities and not taking yourself too seriously. ****y & funny can be a bit missleading.

You want to be confident in your abilities, but not care so much you won't push comfort limits. This produces a guy who might act a little bit ****y, where I guess a better word may be playful, but this is based on a deep inner conviction that when it comes to women, he can get away with it, because he is good.
 
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