I think im an idiot but whenever i think of a ****y guy i think of a very arrogant guy. I'm not one to be arrogant and being ****y is hard for me. This makes pulling off C+F combo hard for me. So i was thinking for of the ****yness thing and it just resembles arrogance so can someone set me straight here. Whats the fine line between arrogance and ****yness or are they infact the same thing?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
****y or Arrogant?
- Thread starter Aerix
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
try being sarcastic while being ****y. Some people don't get it but if your ****y in a silly non serious voice it helps lighten the mood. Works like a charm for me. It helps with humor too. Remember Humor = 2 things that dont fit together.
****Y should not make you look arrogant. It should make you look confident in yourself and not scared of showing it non-abrasively. The C+F additude and mindset says you're a kickback guy and aren't scared of showing who you are and being proud of what you are. Arrogant people are just jackasses and that's different. ****y should be a mindset not something you are when you're being mean or being too into yourself. You need to believe in yourself and that attracts.
Capi Crimini
Banned
It's ****y and funny becuase it's ment to be a balance between Nice-guy and jerk. Cause you really don't want to be either. More of an inbetween.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Cloud-uk
Master Don Juan
My 50 pence...
What you want to be in confident in your abilities and not taking yourself too seriously. ****y & funny can be a bit missleading.
You want to be confident in your abilities, but not care so much you won't push comfort limits. This produces a guy who might act a little bit ****y, where I guess a better word may be playful, but this is based on a deep inner conviction that when it comes to women, he can get away with it, because he is good.
What you want to be in confident in your abilities and not taking yourself too seriously. ****y & funny can be a bit missleading.
You want to be confident in your abilities, but not care so much you won't push comfort limits. This produces a guy who might act a little bit ****y, where I guess a better word may be playful, but this is based on a deep inner conviction that when it comes to women, he can get away with it, because he is good.