Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Master Don Juan
What are you attempting? Why is it not working? Why do you think? Could what you're doing be interpreted as something else?
It isn't her that you're having problems with. It's just her having problems. If you can make other girls laugh easily but not this one, where does the problem really lie?Originally posted by Oni
It seems that i can't make this girl that i'm trying to get laugh. I don't know how, i can make other girls laugh easily but its just her that im having problems with,
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
So even if its her problem, what can i do now? I really wanan get her.Originally posted by Porky
It isn't her that you're having problems with. It's just her having problems. If you can make other girls laugh easily but not this one, where does the problem really lie?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You really want to get her do you? Oh right shes something called good looking. Is that some kind of species or something because guys do tend to treat them differant from average girls. Stop trying to make her laugh you get no benifit out of it yourself. There are loads of guys who try to make good looking girls laugh.Originally posted by Oni
So even if its her problem, what can i do now? I really wanan get her.