Scorpio13c
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Just wondering what anyone recommends for a Christmas gift for a woman when in a new relationship?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Xmas gift after 1.5 Months?
- Thread starter Scorpio13c
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
jophil28
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Fridge calendar so she can pencil in her next date with you.
Scorpio13c
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Lol, I'm not that jaded, but thanks Jophil, I hear you!jophil28 said:Fridge calendar so she can pencil in her next date with you.
Boilermaker
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:crackup:vatoloco said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
cedd
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give her your body for one X rated night
PokerInTheRear
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Lube and some knee pads?
LovelyLady
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A candle, a book, a picture frame for a tabletop or desk, or perhaps a small bamboo plant (for luck and prosperity in the New Year).
Ha! The guy obviously has a great sense of humor!Boilermaker said::crackup:vatoloco said:
Okay, seriously now. You have to give more details. Exclusive? For how long? How long ago did you meet her? Details, man. Details.
I personally don't like giving gifts on holidays to random plates. I only give gifts (and even then, moderately-priced and meaningful) to a plate that has requested exclusivity, has been granted it, has been a good girl and she deserves it.
And btw, I hope it's not the same girl from last year's Christmas dinner thingy.
Scorpio13c
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Hey Vatoloco, no, not the same woman from last year, thank goodness!vatoloco said:Ha! The guy obviously has a great sense of humor!
Okay, seriously now. You have to give more details. Exclusive? For how long? How long ago did you meet her? Details, man. Details.
I personally don't like giving gifts on holidays to random plates. I only give gifts (and even then, moderately-priced and meaningful) to a plate that has requested exclusivity, has been granted it, has been a good girl and she deserves it.
And btw, I hope it's not the same girl from last year's Christmas dinner thingy.
It's been almost two months and yes exclusive. She hinted at a IPod but I told her I wasn't going to buy her that. Now I'm stuck for ideas..
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Quiksilver
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Something small, no more than $50.
I'm in the same situation. Except I've got her Bday and Christmas this month to shop for. I'm roughly keeping it around $60 each. A casual necklace with a charm thingy she has the symbol everywhere, a dvd, and probably some perfume someone recommended. I'll split up the gifts for both occasions and take her to dinner as well for her bday.
Look around her house see what she likes. The more you know her the more original you can be.
Look around her house see what she likes. The more you know her the more original you can be.
ChalengeGuyFan
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Notice how the only comment on that book is one of a MAN.vatoloco said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.