Scorpio13c
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Just wondering what anyone recommends for a Christmas gift for a woman when in a new relationship?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Xmas gift after 1.5 Months?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
jophil28
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Fridge calendar so she can pencil in her next date with you.
Scorpio13c
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Lol, I'm not that jaded, but thanks Jophil, I hear you!jophil28 said:Fridge calendar so she can pencil in her next date with you.
Boilermaker
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:crackup:vatoloco said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
cedd
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give her your body for one X rated night
PokerInTheRear
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Lube and some knee pads?
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A candle, a book, a picture frame for a tabletop or desk, or perhaps a small bamboo plant (for luck and prosperity in the New Year).
Ha! The guy obviously has a great sense of humor!Boilermaker said::crackup:vatoloco said:
Okay, seriously now. You have to give more details. Exclusive? For how long? How long ago did you meet her? Details, man. Details.
I personally don't like giving gifts on holidays to random plates. I only give gifts (and even then, moderately-priced and meaningful) to a plate that has requested exclusivity, has been granted it, has been a good girl and she deserves it.
And btw, I hope it's not the same girl from last year's Christmas dinner thingy.
Scorpio13c
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Hey Vatoloco, no, not the same woman from last year, thank goodness!vatoloco said:Ha! The guy obviously has a great sense of humor!
Okay, seriously now. You have to give more details. Exclusive? For how long? How long ago did you meet her? Details, man. Details.
I personally don't like giving gifts on holidays to random plates. I only give gifts (and even then, moderately-priced and meaningful) to a plate that has requested exclusivity, has been granted it, has been a good girl and she deserves it.
And btw, I hope it's not the same girl from last year's Christmas dinner thingy.
It's been almost two months and yes exclusive. She hinted at a IPod but I told her I wasn't going to buy her that. Now I'm stuck for ideas..
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Quiksilver
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Something small, no more than $50.
I'm in the same situation. Except I've got her Bday and Christmas this month to shop for. I'm roughly keeping it around $60 each. A casual necklace with a charm thingy she has the symbol everywhere, a dvd, and probably some perfume someone recommended. I'll split up the gifts for both occasions and take her to dinner as well for her bday.
Look around her house see what she likes. The more you know her the more original you can be.
Look around her house see what she likes. The more you know her the more original you can be.
ChalengeGuyFan
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Notice how the only comment on that book is one of a MAN.vatoloco said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.