"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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WWDJD if a gay guy hit on him?

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It seems that going to the gym and good looks can attract the wrong kind of attention.
It makes me feel really uncomfortable... seems like an AFC fag. Has asked me three times if i live on campus. :nervous:

Whenever he talks to me now, i just try to be friendly but blow him off like i'm doing my own thing.
Frankly i don't wanna know anything about his sexual orientation.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I donno i'm a friendly kind of person. I say hi to everyone. Besides it's awkward to just ignore someone when they come up and talk to you. What am i supposed to do look away?
We have a lot of gay people at our school, so i just try to ignore them for the most part. I didn't know this guy was a fag until he started hitting on me and by that time i was almost friends with him.

Common this is a serious problem!! I could see how to a girl this would be a turn on.
I was laughing at my friend when she told me one of her friends had tried to make out with her... now i'm not laughing anymore. :(
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Microphone Fiend said:
just be polite and tell him you're flattered but you arent a homosexual. Say it nicely and firmly and you should be cool.
Yeah. It's a compliment if a Gay guy hits on you. It's happened to me a few times, I say "Thanks, but no thanks" (or similar), and then a few have become friends. Well dressed "classy" gay guys = chick magnets, so being their straight friend is a very very good thing.

If he's just being friendly though, perhaps he's just a nice guy?
 

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I donno i'm a friendly kind of person. I say hi to everyone. Besides it's awkward to just ignore someone when they come up and talk to you. What am i supposed to do look away?
We have a lot of gay people at our school, so i just try to ignore them for the most part. I didn't know this guy was a fag until he started hitting on me and by that time i was almost friends with him.

Common this is a serious problem!! I could see how to a girl this would be a turn on.
I was laughing at my friend when she told me one of her friends had tried to make out with her... now i'm not laughing anymore. :(

If you're sure he's trying to hit on you then you can just make it clear you're not a homosexual by some indirect comment, ie, i'm dating this girl, or whatever. If someone asked me if I lived on campus I wouldn't read too much into it but that's just me.

I was at a bar once w/2 girls... this guy came up to me and said "you're a handsome guy" and told the girls i was with, "he's a real handsome guy! You guys are lucky!" I just said thank you and ignored him. The girls I was with asked if I knew him. This was not a gay bar so I don't know why he came up to me like that.
 

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stinkyape said:
Yeah. It's a compliment if a Gay guy hits on you. It's happened to me a few times, I say "Thanks, but no thanks" (or similar), and then a few have become friends. Well dressed "classy" gay guys = chick magnets, so being their straight friend is a very very good thing.

If he's just being friendly though, perhaps he's just a nice guy?
Yea, i'm not quite sure if he's gay, that's why i was hesitant about just blurting that out.
Maybe you're right, maybe he just wants friends really bad. Either way, i'm just gonna try to avoid him. He creeps me out.

If he approaches me again i'll use that gf line. thanx, for the help guys.
 

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Gyms are LOADED with gay guys. Looks are everything in the gay world. Most of you seem to be on the fast track to attracting gay men. What you think girls want is what gay boys covet.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sparky0000 said:
Gyms are LOADED with gay guys. Looks are everything in the gay world. Most of you seem to be on the fast track to attracting gay men. What you think girls want is what gay boys covet.
Hahahaha this is grand! You know I've always been a little paranoid that there are some gay forum stooges here on SoSuave, with the intent to convert young aspiring dons to the bareback way. Most guys here are a little fruity if you ask me.
 

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Let's not call them "gay." Gay is just a word homosexuals made up so they can justify their sick and perverted acts. Gay means: happy, cheerful, etc. Look it up. It has nothing to do with being a homosexual. Call them homosexuals because that is the proper word. Btw, I am heterosexual and I don't find that offensive, so homos should be fine with being called that.
 

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Gyms are LOADED with gay guys. Looks are everything in the gay world. Most of you seem to be on the fast track to attracting gay men. What you think girls want is what gay boys covet.
Hahahaha. Well i'm sure they think just like women, so its all good. They're probably just a little more forward about it.
I mean common, what girl doesn't like a guy that's in shape?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ryannath said:
Let's not call them "gay." Gay is just a word homosexuals made up so they can justify their sick and perverted acts. Gay means: happy, cheerful, etc. Look it up. It has nothing to do with being a homosexual. Call them homosexuals because that is the proper word. Btw, I am heterosexual and I don't find that offensive, so homos should be fine with being called that.
Sick and perverted huh... Okkkkay buddy. Someone is a homophobe. When did consentual sex become sick and perverted?
 

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Sick and perverted huh... Okkkkay buddy. Someone is a homophobe. When did consentual sex become sick and perverted?

They're not bothering me any. No, I don't think they made a choice to become gay. No, they're not tracking me down to rape me. No they don't bother me, so get over it.
 

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Hahahaha. Well i'm sure they think just like women, so its all good. They're probably just a little more forward about it.
I mean common, what girl doesn't like a guy that's in shape?
You know nothing about females. Absolutely nothing. Wow, no wonder some of you are so lost. Gay guys think like men. There is a reason that every STD travels through the gay community like wildfire. They have TONS of sex. Just like most of you would do if you could. Their thought process has little to nothing in common with the typical healthy female. Maybe 40 year old divorce types might think like they do, but those are not normal healthy females.

I really question if any of you have gotten to know a female who isn't a tramp. Every girl I deal with is very stiff and uncomfortable when it comes to anything more than a kiss. I suspect if the girl you are with is different, than she is probably a HPV infected tramp.

Homosexuals are sick. Just that American society has led you to believe that gay guys are cool. Try spreading that myth around Eastern Europe. The Western Europeans have and it has gotten even more hatred directed towards gays. Go visit dlist.com. Tell me that homosexuality isn't just another way to get lots of action.
 

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lol, very true, Teacher, but is there a way to pull them from the matrix?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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