"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wtf?

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ok aa I'm sure some of you read my prior post. this chick I've been seeing for about 2 months out of absolutly nowhere kinda ghosted me for a few days. she texted me back Friday saying. I'm sorry I'm having major family issues right now and its stressing me out horribly it's just been a bad week. ok legit excuse. I responded with something to which I havent got a response since Friday. thing is she hasnt been on snap facebook or anything so it makes me think ok she really isnt even ever looking at her social media at all right now. my gut feeling is to give her space and wait for her to text me. but what if she is legit super depressed right now I kinda want to let her know I'm here for her...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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you're off center...continue interactions after you've recovered.

Aka... take some time off.
 

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its hard man I liked this chick our connection was unlike anything ive ever felt as lame as that sounds
 

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its hard man I liked this chick our connection was unlike anything ive ever felt as lame as that sounds
time to test that connection
 

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agreed. take some as off as in no texting her or responding?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you serious with her... building a relationship... and it sounds legit I see nothing wrong with something like "Take care of family... If you need anything let me know.... I'll be be here if you need me"... then go silent.
 

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If you serious with her... building a relationship... and it sounds legit I see nothing wrong with something like "Take care of family... If you need anything let me know."... then go silent.
I edited the post above. do this, only this
 

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its hard man I liked this chick our connection was unlike anything ive ever felt as lame as that sounds
Just like the last 2 that ghosted you after bogus excuses after you acted all beta and clingy?

You're failing to learn.
 

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ok aa I'm sure some of you read my prior post. this chick I've been seeing for about 2 months out of absolutly nowhere kinda ghosted me for a few days. she texted me back Friday saying. I'm sorry I'm having major family issues right now and its stressing me out horribly it's just been a bad week. ok legit excuse. I responded with something to which I havent got a response since Friday. thing is she hasnt been on snap facebook or anything so it makes me think ok she really isnt even ever looking at her social media at all right now. my gut feeling is to give her space and wait for her to text me. but what if she is legit super depressed right now I kinda want to let her know I'm here for her...
Yup it likely meant she found a guy she was interested in and they probably had marathon sex for 2 days.

The sooner you stop wasting your time with this one and start working on finding other women the better you will be OP
 

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thing is shes done this before ghosted me for 2 days then said something along the lines of sorry ik int ignoring you I was having family issues and "have been very stressed out what day are you free we can go out this weekend"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you serious with her... building a relationship... and it sounds legit I see nothing wrong with something like "Take care of family... If you need anything let me know.... I'll be be here if you need me"... then go silent.
I am serious I can see myself with this girl. I already replied with you dont have explain this to me. do what you have to do. then offered to take her out this weekend to no response since Friday.
 

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I am serious I can see myself with this girl. I already replied with you dont have explain this to me. do what you have to do. then offered to take her out this weekend to no response since Friday.
It's rough.... Good luck.
 

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yeah it's odd and makes absolutly no sense. just Monday we got food and SHE was the making plans to hang out later in the week. now no response....
 

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yeah it's odd and makes absolutly no sense. just Monday we got food and SHE was the making plans to hang out later in the week. now no response....
Dude wake the fvck up. It means she is spending time with and banging another guy. She is too busy with his d!ck in her mouth to respond to you.
 

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yeah it's odd and makes absolutly no sense. just Monday we got food and SHE was the making plans to hang out later in the week. now no response....
If things are not flowing the way you'd like...It's better to disappear, than hang around asking questions.

My guess is, she's not FEELING attraction...otherwise, she'd be writing you a book, aka blowing up your phone.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Dude wake the fvck up. It means she is spending time with and banging another guy. She is too busy with his d!ck in her mouth to respond to you.
Most chicks (in a relationship or not) are fvcking someone. The fact that OP has spent THAT much time with this chick and has never banged her tells me 2 things:

1. He is too nice and failed to escalate.
2. She put him in the friends zone or as a backup plan while the main guy is shooting loads on her face and @ss and beating her pvssy up.

With almost all chicks that are sexually active, there is someone (relationship or not) that has a contract on it.
 

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Most chicks (in a relationship or not) are fvcking someone. The fact that OP has spent THAT much time with this chick and has never banged her tells me 2 things:

1. He is too nice and failed to escalate.
2. She put him in the friends zone or as a backup plan while the main guy is shooting loads on her face and @ss and beating her pvssy up.

With almost all chicks that are sexually active, there is someone (relationship or not) that has a contract on it.

It's a classic failure of looking at ones own contribution to the problem, which seems like a prevalent method of thinking these days; there is a significant failure in our society for people to accept responsibility.
 

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It's a classic failure of looking at ones own contribution to the problem, which seems like a prevalent method of thinking these days; there is a significant failure in our society for people to accept responsibility.
Very good post.

OP; and everyone else. Operate from the mindset that everything is your fault that happens in your life. It’s empowering because it shows you can change and have the ability of controlling your reality.

OP is in turmoil because this situation is happening to him. And so he’s assuming the passive victim role which is disempowering to him as an individual.
 

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Detach for a while. Make her think you have plenty of other options and your own life is too valuable to be wasting time with her drama. Pull back and wait for her to come to you. If she doesn't, see it for what it is and next her.
 
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