wtf?

[Ryan Adams]

ok aa I'm sure some of you read my prior post. this chick I've been seeing for about 2 months out of absolutly nowhere kinda ghosted me for a few days. she texted me back Friday saying. I'm sorry I'm having major family issues right now and its stressing me out horribly it's just been a bad week. ok legit excuse. I responded with something to which I havent got a response since Friday. thing is she hasnt been on snap facebook or anything so it makes me think ok she really isnt even ever looking at her social media at all right now. my gut feeling is to give her space and wait for her to text me. but what if she is legit super depressed right now I kinda want to let her know I'm here for her...

 

[wifehunter]

you're off center...continue interactions after you've recovered.

Aka... take some time off.

 

[Ryan Adams]

its hard man I liked this chick our connection was unlike anything ive ever felt as lame as that sounds

 

[wifehunter]

its hard man I liked this chick our connection was unlike anything ive ever felt as lame as that sounds

time to test that connection

 

[Ryan Adams]

agreed. take some as off as in no texting her or responding?

 

[Dingo]

If you serious with her... building a relationship... and it sounds legit I see nothing wrong with something like "Take care of family... If you need anything let me know.... I'll be be here if you need me"... then go silent.

 

[sazc]

If you serious with her... building a relationship... and it sounds legit I see nothing wrong with something like "Take care of family... If you need anything let me know."... then go silent.

I edited the post above. do this, only this

 

[Glassguy]

its hard man I liked this chick our connection was unlike anything ive ever felt as lame as that sounds

Just like the last 2 that ghosted you after bogus excuses after you acted all beta and clingy?

You're failing to learn.

 

[marmel75]

ok aa I'm sure some of you read my prior post. this chick I've been seeing for about 2 months out of absolutly nowhere kinda ghosted me for a few days. she texted me back Friday saying. I'm sorry I'm having major family issues right now and its stressing me out horribly it's just been a bad week. ok legit excuse. I responded with something to which I havent got a response since Friday. thing is she hasnt been on snap facebook or anything so it makes me think ok she really isnt even ever looking at her social media at all right now. my gut feeling is to give her space and wait for her to text me. but what if she is legit super depressed right now I kinda want to let her know I'm here for her...

Yup it likely meant she found a guy she was interested in and they probably had marathon sex for 2 days.

The sooner you stop wasting your time with this one and start working on finding other women the better you will be OP

 

[Ryan Adams]

thing is shes done this before ghosted me for 2 days then said something along the lines of sorry ik int ignoring you I was having family issues and "have been very stressed out what day are you free we can go out this weekend"

 

[Ryan Adams]

If you serious with her... building a relationship... and it sounds legit I see nothing wrong with something like "Take care of family... If you need anything let me know.... I'll be be here if you need me"... then go silent.

I am serious I can see myself with this girl. I already replied with you dont have explain this to me. do what you have to do. then offered to take her out this weekend to no response since Friday.

 

[Dingo]

I am serious I can see myself with this girl. I already replied with you dont have explain this to me. do what you have to do. then offered to take her out this weekend to no response since Friday.

It's rough.... Good luck.

 

[Ryan Adams]

yeah it's odd and makes absolutly no sense. just Monday we got food and SHE was the making plans to hang out later in the week. now no response....

 

[marmel75]

yeah it's odd and makes absolutly no sense. just Monday we got food and SHE was the making plans to hang out later in the week. now no response....

Dude wake the fvck up. It means she is spending time with and banging another guy. She is too busy with his d!ck in her mouth to respond to you.

 

[wifehunter]

yeah it's odd and makes absolutly no sense. just Monday we got food and SHE was the making plans to hang out later in the week. now no response....

If things are not flowing the way you'd like...It's better to disappear, than hang around asking questions.

My guess is, she's not FEELING attraction...otherwise, she'd be writing you a book, aka blowing up your phone.

 

[Glassguy]

Dude wake the fvck up. It means she is spending time with and banging another guy. She is too busy with his d!ck in her mouth to respond to you.

Most chicks (in a relationship or not) are fvcking someone. The fact that OP has spent THAT much time with this chick and has never banged her tells me 2 things:

1. He is too nice and failed to escalate.
2. She put him in the friends zone or as a backup plan while the main guy is shooting loads on her face and @ss and beating her pvssy up.

With almost all chicks that are sexually active, there is someone (relationship or not) that has a contract on it.

 

[Roober]

Most chicks (in a relationship or not) are fvcking someone. The fact that OP has spent THAT much time with this chick and has never banged her tells me 2 things:

1. He is too nice and failed to escalate.
2. She put him in the friends zone or as a backup plan while the main guy is shooting loads on her face and @ss and beating her pvssy up.

With almost all chicks that are sexually active, there is someone (relationship or not) that has a contract on it.

It's a classic failure of looking at ones own contribution to the problem, which seems like a prevalent method of thinking these days; there is a significant failure in our society for people to accept responsibility.

 

[flowtheory]

It's a classic failure of looking at ones own contribution to the problem, which seems like a prevalent method of thinking these days; there is a significant failure in our society for people to accept responsibility.

Very good post.

OP; and everyone else. Operate from the mindset that everything is your fault that happens in your life. It’s empowering because it shows you can change and have the ability of controlling your reality.

OP is in turmoil because this situation is happening to him. And so he’s assuming the passive victim role which is disempowering to him as an individual.

 

[gb1787]

Detach for a while. Make her think you have plenty of other options and your own life is too valuable to be wasting time with her drama. Pull back and wait for her to come to you. If she doesn't, see it for what it is and next her.