WTF is up with this chick?? Lmao...

[BackInTheGame78]

met this chick online, she is showing signs of interest, offering to meet up the day I messaged her, but I didn't have that available, told her to hit me up when she got her schedule figured out(she was starting a new job). So this was Sunday, she messages me today and I told her to text me because I'm not on the site too often and gave her my number.

She texted me 5 minutes later, and we exchange a few texts and I ask her when she is free to grab a drink...she says Saturday night she is free, and I tell her that works, and tell her to meet me at such and such place at 9pm.

**AND BEFORE SOMEONE SAYS "SATURDAYS ARE FOR WOMEN YOU ARE ALREADY BANGING"---LET ME MAKE THIS CLEAR***

-Saturday's are NOT a big day for me....typically I use it chill out and relax because I usually go on 3-4 dates during the week. IT's normally a "ME" day...nobody bothering me, phone turned off, chilling watching a movie by MYSELF. Not because I can't have someone over, I easily could probably have at least 3 different people over any Saturday I want, but because I don't WANT anyone around me. It's my downtime. Therefore, I don't give a fvck about what "Saturday" means to a date...it's probably the LOWEST priority day for me other than Sunday.

Now back to the story:

Then she is like "OK, but I thought I was choosing where we go"
I simply respond "Nope."
And she texts back "OK excuse me why??"

So I'm getting a little irritated at it all and I tell her flat out

"Listen. I'm not sure if you are looking for a guy you can walk all over but I'm clearly not that guy. We can either meet there at 9pm or we don't need to. Just let me know what you'd like to do. I'm fine with it either way."

Then she says "I don't want a guy I can walk all over, I just thought out of curiosity you'd let me choose the place."

So I'm like whatever. I just told her if we make it to a second date she can choose where to go. And she can be damn sure she is going to be paying for the date then.

Unsure if I even want to follow through, I might just cancel the date...I've NEVER had this happen before, I have no idea WTF this chick's problem is.

 

[Dingo]

All that hostility because she wanted to pick a place ?.....

 

[BackInTheGame78]

All that hostility because she wanted to pick a place ?.....

There wasn't any hostility at all from me, towards her... it was "we can either meet or don't meet, I don't care."

the "hostility" is to pre-empt the 5 posters that are going to chime in with "Saturdays are for chicks you are already banging" and "Saturdays are prime date nights not for new chicks". Well, maybe to them they are but not me.

I lead, she follows. If she is used to leading, it tells me she typically looks for weak men that allow it and she expects it. I'm not that dude, so if that is indeed what she wants, no reason to meet.

 

[dustmuffin]

This is interesting. Would like to know what she has to say about it. Your response was good although I dont think I would have given here the choice of a second date. Lay it out...if she wants to go fine...If not that's fine too.

She is trying to take the frame. I think I would go out with her to see what she is about. Might be fun to game her. You should have a chance to sharpen your skills.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is interesting. Would like to know what she has to say about it. Your response was good although I dont think I would have given here the choice of a second date. Lay it out...if she wants to go fine...If not that's fine too.

She is trying to take the frame. I think I would go out with her to see what she is about. Might be fun to game her. You should have a chance to sharpen your skills.

She can have the frame....without me in it...plenty of loser ass dudes that are desperate enough to get any date they can that will do whatever she wants.

Oh I'll let her pick the place on date 2 if there is one and let her know she is paying for it too.

 

[El Payaso]

She's going to respect you a lot more for being straight up and telling her exactly how it is.

 

[dustmuffin]

She can have the frame....without me in it...plenty of loser ass dudes that are desperate enough to get any date they can that will do whatever she wants.

Oh I'll let her pick the place on date 2 if there is one and let her know she is paying for it too.

Very true about the loser dudes. What I am interested in is if she submits and accepts your date or continues to be a bit ch. Also what goes on during the date. Does she continue to try to take frame or does she submit after you show that you have a backbone? I see this as a learning experience. That is all. You might have better things to do.

 

[guru1000]

BITG, I don't respond to your threads anymore. Do you know why? Because you're an experienced vet who has banged more chicks than 95% of men on this site and you already know what's up.

Different chicks, different dynamics. But the same mentality to all: DGAF. Personally, I rarely entertain single date nights. I would throw her into a triple-header night at the same time as one of the two other dates, and see what happens.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

BITG, I don't respond to your threads anymore. Do you know why? Because you're an experienced vet who has banged more chicks than 95% of men on this site and you already know what's up.

Different chicks, different dynamics. But the same mentality to all: DGAF. Personally, I rarely entertain single date nights. I would throw her into a triple-header night at the same time as one of the two other dates, and see what happens.

Yeah I know...she either wants to see how easily I'm going to let her be in control or if I'm willing to just give her control...just haven't actually had this happen before a first date, so I'm like WTF, lol...

If I get this chick in the bedroom you best believe the punishment is going to be harsh...this chick might lose her job from having to call into work for 3 days from the beatdown her pvssy is going to receive.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Very true about the loser dudes. What I am interested in is if she submits and accepts your date or continues to be a bit ch. Also what goes on during the date. Does she continue to try to take frame or does she submit after you show that you have a backbone? I see this as a learning experience. That is all. You might have better things to do.

I think what I'm going to do is go on the date and if she gives me the slightest amount of BS I'm going to simply let her know it was nice meeting her but I'm sure there are women who would be more appreciative of being able to spend time with me and literally go start talking to other chicks at the place we are at. In front of her. With no fvcks given.

 

[marmel75]

You need to kick this b!tch to the curb.

 

[Bayne05]

She wants to see if she can control you, she's looking for a Yes man. I've dropped alot of woman because of this crap. Good thing you called her out on her BS sooner.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Damn you guys seem like you are nailing it on these dating websites. I meet women on there very seldom, I have 10x better luck in person

 

[marmel75]

She wants to see if she can control you, she's looking for a Yes man. I've dropped alot of woman because of this crap. Good thing you called her out on her BS sooner.

That isn't gonna happen, interested to see what she says in person about it

 

[Trunks]

Leading and domineering are not the same, especially for something so trivial. Sounds to me like she was just being silly and you got all uptight over nothing.

 

[pyros]

What's gonna happen...? she will probably tell you she's not meeting up with you because you seem too dominant/paranoid/serious, or she will tell you yes, but she will end up flaking on you.
Why? because SHE DOESNT EVEN KNOW YOU. You cannot be that harsh and inflexible at the begining when you're a stranger to her.

You could have played a bit with her, teased her a bit, and either make her want to follow your plan, or accept her request and go to wherever she wants to go, and after the first drink you tell her where you're going next etc so she end ups following your lead without even noticing it.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Leading and domineering are not the same, especially for something so trivial. Sounds to me like she was just being silly and you got all uptight over nothing.

I don't think it was her being silly, she was actually serious about it. Not dealing with that princess BS.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

What's gonna happen...? she will probably tell you she's not meeting up with you because you seem too dominant/paranoid/serious, or she will tell you yes, but she will end up flaking on you.
Why? because SHE DOESNT EVEN KNOW YOU. You cannot be that harsh and inflexible at the begining when you're a stranger to her.

You could have played a bit with her, teased her a bit, and either make her want to follow your plan, or accept her request and go to wherever she wants to go, and after the first drink you tell her where you're going next etc so she end ups following your lead without even noticing it.

Sure I can. I gave her the choice, either she can meet me there or she doesn't have to. I really don't care what option she chose. You are right I don't know her, and she doesn't know me. Which is why 99.8% of the women I've asked out simply meet me where I suggest.

I set up dates on my terms, not hers. I'm not hurting for dates, trust me. I'm at the point where I schedule a date followed by a meetup with a FB, so I'm pretty much getting laid no matter what. I've got 4 in rotation at this point, but one is starting to annoy me, so I'm trying to replace her right now...

 

[BackInTheGame78]

What's gonna happen...? she will probably tell you she's not meeting up with you because you seem too dominant/paranoid/serious, or she will tell you yes, but she will end up flaking on you.
Why? because SHE DOESNT EVEN KNOW YOU. You cannot be that harsh and inflexible at the begining when you're a stranger to her.

Nope...this isn't happening...she just texted me to confirm we are meeting and said she is really looking forward to seeing me...

 

[BackInTheGame78]

UPDATE:

So I meet up with this woman last night...within 10 minutes I could tell this chick wasn't going to be anywhere close to worth the effort I would need to put in to fvck her. But whatever, my FB wasn't available until around 11pm after she got off work, and it was in the same vicinity as the place we were at, so I wasn't about to drive home and then drive back.

So we had a couple of drinks, and I find out the following:

1) She is foreign from the Middle East and doesn't believe a woman should ever pay for anything on a date with a guy
2) Her ex husband was abusive
3) She has 3 kids that live a few states away with the father and she rarely sees them. Then she told me he has started becoming abusive towards the kids.
4) She is looking for someone to get married to again.
5) She views herself as some amazing woman that a guy is going to have to basically bend over backwards for.

We start playing darts and she is getting destroyed and ends up quitting in the middle of the game. Actually she tried to quit sooner but I told her the game isn't over yet and to get her ass back there and throw her darts, lmao...and she was like "Did you just give me an order?" Damn right I did.

So she throws a few more rounds and then was like I am not good and don't want to play anymore(she was terrible...I think half her throws landed on the floor). So I was like whatever...she wanted to get another drink but it was 10:30 and I was like "No, I need to get going" and start walking to the door.

Walk her to her car and we talk for a few minutes and then she gives me a hug and turns her cheek when I try to kiss her. Figured I should at least get something for my waste of a night out, lmao...

Then she texts me 20 minutes later that she really enjoyed spending time with me and would like to see me again.

No response. Delete. Fvck off b!tch, lol...

Went over and pounded my FB for a couple hours to take out my aggression...unfortunately it must have been too aggressive because I look like the walking wounded this morning from the nail marks she left...hopefully when I see my other FB's this week they don't try and turn it into a competition and all leave their marks for the other women to see...