Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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WTF..getting fat?

Aru

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I'm going to make this short and sweet because I wrote a very detailed post that got mucked up in the sending and I lost it. So I'm kinda irritated. Here goes:

I Am 6'0''. I started at 220 pounds, well overweight, in January 2003.
Have spent almost the last 2 years seriously losing weight.
Lowest weight was 175 pounds in April 2004. No more gut, face well defined, look good. People that meet me for first time say I'm 'lean'. People I used to know say 'skinny'.
Started school year at 178.5 lbs. Maintained this until early October. Have been weight training to get 'ripped' since then. Have had a good diet that has become a part of my life over past 2 years.
Have an active life (also ingrained).

Anyway after weight training with capable roomate for 6 weeks or so and increasing my protein intake while keeping rest of diet same, and getting plenty of rest, I am now at 184 pounds.

While noticing muscle gains, I think I am getting fat gains too. Noticing accumulation of fat in the midsection which ticks me off because it took me 2 years to get rid of it all.

How can I make sure I gain solid muscle mass and get 'ripped' but not end up getting fat?

Thanks.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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7 Virtues

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I know of no way that you can avoid putting on fat while bulking.
 

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Originally posted by 7 Virtues
I know of no way that you can avoid putting on fat while bulking.
i do. It's called increaseing your calories slowly. It will produce MINIMAL fat gains.
 

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Anytime you bulk up, you will gain some fat along in the process.
 

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Originally posted by iknowmore
i do. It's called increaseing your calories slowly. It will produce MINIMAL fat gains.
Minimal fat gains are still fat gains.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Hot Ice

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Originally posted by Nightwing
Anytime you bulk up, you will gain some fat along in the process.
True. Otherwise, you are not gaining muscles either, since you don't eat enough.


You shouldn't be scared of getting little fat during bulking.
It's natural and you cannot avoid it.

Losing fat while gaining muscle is almost impossible to most of us, so you have to keep cycling between bulking up and cutting.
Check DIESEL's guide for more information.

BTW. As you describe yourself lean now you wont get that much fat while bulking if you just eat low fat food with high protein and low GI carbs!. (note, after gym it's good to eat high GI carbs and minimal fat)
 

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First of, get a body composition test done to determine your fat levels.

Then, check out Diesel's cutting guide. Everytime you bulk up, you will gain fat, it's unavoidable if you wanna build muscle.
 

Fatality

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Originally posted by iknowmore
i do. It's called increaseing your calories slowly. It will produce MINIMAL fat gains.
and multiply the time it takes you to get muscular by about 10X.
 

Fatality

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Originally posted by iknowmore
oh wow, so wrong on so many levels.
Maybe not by 10X but it would defitely take alot longer.

What would I know I've only been doing this my whole life:rolleyes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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iknowmore

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Originally posted by Fatality
Maybe not by 10X but it would defitely take alot longer.

What would I know I've only been doing this my whole life:rolleyes:
im not doubting you, i've been an amateur bodybuilder for 7 years. Getting fat when bulking is a thing of the past, yes many people do that, but many people dont care about their nutrition. if you want to stay relatively lean but still pack on muscle, take it slow.
 
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