"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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WTF does my ex want from me?

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Adrian

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She broke my heart about 8 months ago and now she calls me "to see how I've been doing all this time". I heard from a close friend that her and her recent boyfriend are already breaking up :rolleyes: . She was asking about me to some of my stupid friends and one of them gave her my number :mad: . All I did over the phone was talk about our relationship, how ****ed up she was bieng towards me, how I forgive her and not hold any grudges against her (which is what she expected from me) and what is going on in our present lives. I figured she probably wanted me to take her back but she also said stuff during our conversation such as "Someday you'll find the right girl". WTF does this psycho ***** want from me now? 8 months ago she put me through the worst depressive moment of my life and now she's coming back to me acting as if nothing ever happened and how shes sorry for bieng cold towards me all that time.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Listen man, this b!tch threw you away thinking she could do better. She didn't see you as a boyfriend, she just saw you as trash that she didn't need in her life anymore. She moved on for the better, or so she thought.

So she found some *******, it didn't work out, and now she's experiancing some ego hurting and needs some sucker to go be her little emotional b!tch so she can get her self-esteem up.

That's what she sees you as, despite how nice she is or how much she tells you she regrets what happened. She sees you as a dependable rebound, the guy who will be there for her when other *******s use her up and throw her away. She has no respect for you, and does not love you - if she did, she wouldn't have ditched your ass and ignored you for 8 months. This girl does not care about you. Where's your pride man? Don't even talk to this b!tch, she is beneath you. She wants you to be her little rebound b!tch, who does she think she is? Remember, you are a man, you're no one's b!tch.

I tell you, if you take this b!tch back, you will break up again, and next time it will be even worse. Once she knows you'll take her back, she will do all sorts of sh!t to push your limits. Tell her you're not interested in anything she has to offer and to stop calling you. Then disappear from her life.

She didn't think you were worth her time back then, and she doesn't think so now. She just wants her self-esteem restored, and there is nothing better for that then an ex-bf who was afc. So don't play into her game.

Good luck man.
 
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Take her back??? :D ....... I wasn't planning on it. You sound like you speak from expirience man. Thanks for the advice. You honestly don't know how much you've helped me. Thanks Man.
 
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Yeah, MindoverMatter is pretty much on the ball...

She wants to know how terrible your life is now that she isn't around. Tell her how wonderful your life has been and all the cool stuff you have been up to in the last 8 months.

The only thing I would add is that it is great to catch up with the ex, then using your newly acquired DJ mentality, flirt outrageously with her and then watching her blow you. At this point you are vulnerable though, don't commit to anything... ANYTHING!!! :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yo, this **** happens to me still. And i'm talking 4-5 years later. I personally think it only happens to younger chicks. In their lives they are ****ign around etc, but when's **** isn't happening the way they want it to they call you up. Who knows perhaps they never really got over you? I have two girls that are my ex's from WAY back- 3-4 years ago! Back in my 1/2 afc days. Still calling up wanting to know whats going down in my life.

Of course i'm never going to take them back. Everyone should just know this as fact. But then unlike popular thought- i tell them very little about me. I'm friendly blah blah on the phone: often they drop the hints about catching up blah blah. But **** that. I got better things to do with my time. So at this point you can say some **** about having a drink. And let some time pass and being a busy guy you soon forget about catching up with them.

In the meantime its more than likely they are stressing about you. I've tried the "i've moved on -stay out of my life" lines etc... they aren't helpful. They **** u over in the long run. Girls like this are just some **** you have to deal with. That's the cost of making mistakes by making to many girlfriends that aren't worthy.

Decent chicks don't pull this **** on you.

On a side note, i'm not even interested in ****ing these girls ever again. Too much trouble and baggage etc. **** that.

Cheers,
f.

Excuse all the language homie- just read another post that was very 'gangsta' and playa in nature that's got up in my face. ;p
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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She was feeling guilty and used you as her emotional tampon. She feels better now and where are you? Confused...:rolleyes: You should have accepted her apology and moved on instead of carrying all this extra crap for her.
 
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