Wow this feels weird.

[Perfect10]

Seriously... To be on the other side of the KBJs.
I'm acctually nervous to call this chick, to ask her out.
It's so weird DD You KBJs (such as myself sometimes) live it easy. You guys just give advice which is 100% textbook correct but you never put yourself in risk of getting hurt or rejected. That's why you'll never become better. It's easy to write and lecture but actually doing feels goddamn nervrecking.

So now I'm going to be the one asking for advice which I basically should already know but since I've not done it for a looong looong time and only talked about it here on SS I'll ask it anyways.

I'm about to call this chick who's 5 years older than me. I've got NO idea if she's intrested but we'll see, only if I get her out on a date first.
I know that I should "command her" to come out and just tell her to be where and when at the location. It's just that if she rejects me and doesn't give a counteroffer then what should I say? I know I shouldn't be angry nor will I. I'm just wondering if I should be like: Okay, I'll call you another day. Is that okay?

So yeah there you go.

 

[shaunuk]

I'm not sure exactly what you're really asking.

When did you meet her? How much have you talked with her (in person)? If you want to hang out with her just ask her to hang out. There's no advanced method here.

 

[Akira Ikari]

Yeah, you shouldn't over-complicate things. Just simply ask her if she wants to hang out.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Nervousness isn't always a bad thing. And being nervous, in my mind, is often a good sign. It means I'm excited about something, and I'm working towards a desirable outcome.

There are definitely times when nervousness can paralyze. But a big part of showing mental strength, I believe, is not allowing it to.

GL man. Stay positive and inviting, why wouldn't she enjoy your presence?

 

[PlaysToWin]

Assume she is interested. Have a reasonably specific plan and suggest she comes along. If she declines and doesn't give a counter offer then don't say "Ok, I'll call you another time" or anything like that. You just say "Ok, bye" and NEXT her instantly.

 

[Perfect10]

Assume she is interested. Have a reasonably specific plan and suggest she comes along. If she declines and doesn't give a counter offer then don't say "Ok, I'll call you another time" or anything like that. You just say "Ok, bye" and NEXT her instantly.

"Ok bye" is good Simple and precise.

Although I wont give up that easily. I'll give her one more shot if she declines the first one.

I was JUST going to call her and guess what happened? She started to write to me on Facebook chat. Which I take as a good sign. She actually added me a few days ago. I think the chat went okay but then she had to go play footsal (soccer indoors the size of a icehockey court) which I know for 100% is true so she didn't ditch the convo. I'll call her tomorrow to ask her out on wednesday to play pool. Let's see how the cookie crumbles with this chick

I'd say she's a 8 but her personality makes her a 9-10 in my opinion. She's possibly like this because she's 25 which makes her a bit more mature than my aged chicks Nice!