"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Wow. Just... wow.

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K_uRIMUBnvw

"Based on the "Manifesto for Conscious Men," a collectively-written document from a number of men who feel that a new definition of masculinity can help redress the imbalances of patriarchy and welcome a new era of loving appreciation between men and women. A group of these men speak from the heart and offer a collective apology, on behalf of their gender, for past abuses of men against women."

Discuss. I can't even process my reaction right now. My brain broke.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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loveshogun said:
I can't. I just ate and I literally felt sick to my stomach trying to watch that. *barf* I took about 20 seconds and had to close the window. Is there an executive summary?
 

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Assuming women are in peril, is this what they really need? Is it even something they want?

I think these guys have a serious case of "It will make me feel better about myself to do this, so it must be right."

Basically, the same kind of thinking that leads a guy into thinking that "I like her, so there MUST be a way to make her like me."

Which, to me, is the epitome of underhanded back dealing and a breakdown of personal integrity on a grave scale. The worst kinds of selfish people are the ones who don't realize how selfish they are.

This kind of video is nothing new to me. It's just the audacity and boldness of making such a sweeping statement is so uncharacteristic of apologists and those lacking spines that my brain literally farted right out of my skull when I heard the first five sentences.
 

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loveshogun said:
A group of these men speak from the heart and offer a collective apology, on behalf of their gender, for past abuses of men against women.
Wait. Isn't it "prejudice" to think there are some general traits for groups that make them groups? This line here goes even further. It actually says there is guilt that passes from one individual in the group to another, even when he hasn't even done anything. Even when the first individual was born and lived long ago, I still carry the guilt for whatever he did.

Is it the same for women? In that case every person in the world should get the death penalty.

And another thing: why aren't we ever allowed to say anything about the good things men do? Of course men commit more crimes than women. Men do EVERYTHING more than women. Women are average in every measurable mental field, like IQ, linguistic ability, mathematical ability, and so on. Men are more spread up and down the scale. That means there are more men who are idiots, but also more men who are geniuses. That means the best writers, doctors, engineers, musicians, inventors, managers and leaders will always be mostly men.

The species does what serves its survival. If a tribe or people hadn't done so, it would have lost out in the competition to those who did. If men took the high positions there was evolutionary sense in doing so.

That doesn't mean that deserving women haven't been allowed up there. Maybe not all the deserving ones - the instinct that makes us recognize men as the best leaders could shut out some worthy women, the application of instinct isn't always perfect. But it happens. Cleopatra, Boudica, Victoria, Elizabeth. Yes, during the "past abuses of men by women," men named the most successful era in the most successful empire the Victorian Era. They worshipped a female leader, Queen Victoria.

And before that a nation followed Joan of Arc to victory in Europe's longest war.

If they didn't put more female generals in place in that war, it wasn't because of "sexism." They would have done it if it had helped them win. They didn't follow more female leaders, because Joan of Arc was an exception that they acknowledged, but aside from her men made the best generals.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Okay, I forced myself to watch it and I gotta say, what a fucking joke!

1. New Age-y shit
2. Speaking with a pseudo-soothing voice
3. Lens flare here and there
4. ????
5. PROFIT!

Classical Nice Guy: "Oh, I'm so sorry for everything. I'm gonna worship you like a goddess. Can we fuck now?"

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