"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Would you take dating advice from this woman?
- Thread starter Findog
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Scaramouche
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Dear Findog,
Would Montgomery have followed Rommels advice before El Alamain?
Would Montgomery have followed Rommels advice before El Alamain?
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No. She's not an authority on what women respond to. If anything she just sounds butthurt because she doesn't get the attention other women do who she knows are better looking than she is.
I sometimes wonder if feminism was really just a jealousy movement to have women that are good looking knocked down a peg to have to work & live life like non-attractive women do by way of removing their looks privilege. Demonizing male sexuality that values female physical attractiveness plays into this in a big way.
Start looking at feminists. And I mean really look at them and ask yourself is she hot, was she hot when she was younger, and where do you think she sits on a looks scale. I've seen maybe 2 in my life that were actually really hot. A few were hot in their youth, but when their looks faded then suddenly they "saw the light". Funny they didn't need feminism when they were still young and sexy, go figure.
I sometimes wonder if feminism was really just a jealousy movement to have women that are good looking knocked down a peg to have to work & live life like non-attractive women do by way of removing their looks privilege. Demonizing male sexuality that values female physical attractiveness plays into this in a big way.
Start looking at feminists. And I mean really look at them and ask yourself is she hot, was she hot when she was younger, and where do you think she sits on a looks scale. I've seen maybe 2 in my life that were actually really hot. A few were hot in their youth, but when their looks faded then suddenly they "saw the light". Funny they didn't need feminism when they were still young and sexy, go figure.
wait_out
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Lightning was once "magic" too right?Lindy West said:
http://dsc.discovery.com/tv-shows/other-shows/videos/other-shows-science-of-sex-appeal-videos.htm
Feminists talking about attraction are like the medieval church talking about physics
Edit: Here's a nice general summary
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Call me shallow, but I didn't even bother playing the video and I just looked at the preview screen before youtube played the video for me to decide that she wasn't worth it to be doling out dating advice...Dominance said:
:crazy:
Haha I didn't see the preview because I was on another page while loading it.
Yep it's VERY rare to see a good looking feminist, I was shocked when watching some Ali G to see him talking to a good looking feminist, first i've seen.
They all just have this jaded, wrinkly, angry ugly vibe and look. No wonder they are angry at men.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I honestly don't understand what she's so worked up about. It's not like she would ever have to "suffer" the indignity of a PUA approaching her. Also, that's just stupid on her part to say that guys absolutely should not approach women during the day at a Starbucks, shopping mall or whatever. If a woman's not interested, you take your cue and move on, but I know more than one couple that met this way.Burroughs said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
sageproduct
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No, but I might take advice from this woman.
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I would not take dating advice from a woman.
Interceptor
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I read that article and it seemed fine to me.
There were pretty common sense points and it didnt insult or offend me personally.
If there are men that can have the insight on what a woman's "problems" , issues, whatever, then there can be some women who might be able to identify patterns, and things that she can tell men about dating and the courtship behaviors.
Nothings foolproof or perfect of course. But there were certain important details in that article.
The smart man will look at all pieces of information, and wont let any pride or ego, or whatever presumed fallibility to discourage him from learning some answers.
If there are certain scientific answers to courtship rituals, etc,then assuming a scientific method of taking in all bits of information is important.
There were pretty common sense points and it didnt insult or offend me personally.
If there are men that can have the insight on what a woman's "problems" , issues, whatever, then there can be some women who might be able to identify patterns, and things that she can tell men about dating and the courtship behaviors.
Nothings foolproof or perfect of course. But there were certain important details in that article.
The smart man will look at all pieces of information, and wont let any pride or ego, or whatever presumed fallibility to discourage him from learning some answers.
If there are certain scientific answers to courtship rituals, etc,then assuming a scientific method of taking in all bits of information is important.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
I wouldn't take dating advice from any woman... period.