"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Would you stay with your wife if she got HIV?

Would you stay with your wife if she found out she tested HIV positive?

  • Yes

    Votes: 6 27.3%
  • No

    Votes: 16 72.7%

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El Payaso

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Assuming you found out she tested positive for HIV which wasn't through cheating, would you stay with her if you tested negative?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm finding it hard to believe anyone would be callous enough to leave their wife after learning she caught HIV through no fault of her own. Drug abuse or cheating I'd understand.
 

thatfeel

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Yeah, I agree with :).
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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KingBeef

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Very difficult question.... I wish there more details available but if I had to make the decision (based on also wanting to have children) I would have to say no but it's still a difficult decision...
 

FairShake

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If she got AIDS through cheating or drug usage? Of course I'd leave her. What am I, a moron?

If she got AIDS through an accident like a needle stick? Of course I'd stay with her. What am I, an azzhole?
 

GS750

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I don't want to die of AIDS. So not likely.
 

PeasantPlayer

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Depends on the situation, I don't want to get married, but I want kids. Would I stay with her? If I was older year in my 60s and on. If I was younger, I couldn't be with her. We could be friends I would help and support her, the physical part of our relationship would have to seize though.
 

Naughty Fins

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FairShake said:
If she got AIDS through cheating or drug usage? Of course I'd leave her. What am I, a moron?

If she got AIDS through an accident like a needle stick? Of course I'd stay with her. What am I, an azzhole?
You nailed it. There's no reason to leave her if she didn't do anything bad.

Although if she got herself raped that's a different kind of accident. I'd say goodbye immediately.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Naughty Fins said:
You nailed it. There's no reason to leave her if she didn't do anything bad.

Although if she got herself raped that's a different kind of accident. I'd say goodbye immediately.
How could she have gotten herself raped unless she put herself into a closed environment with another "interested" male and she shouldn't have been in the position in the first place cause she has you?
 

FairShake

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Naughty Fins said:
Although if she got herself raped that's a different kind of accident. I'd say goodbye immediately.
Got herself raped? Wait what? That's a pretty sh!tty way of putting it, certainly it couldn't get any worse.

How could she have gotten herself raped unless she put herself into a closed environment with another "interested" male and she shouldn't have been in the position in the first place cause she has you?
Oh, nevermind. :box:
 

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you guys are all doing it wrong lol


1. stay with wife to be all sentimental and ****

2. change her HIV medication to aspirin so she hurry up and dies

3. profit from being a widower
 

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Most people will leave but not straight away though. They'll start backtracking slowly but surely.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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mangotot

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backbreaker said:
you guys are all doing it wrong lol


1. stay with wife to be all sentimental and ****

2. change her HIV medication to aspirin so she hurry up and dies

3. profit from being a widower
You sir is a smart cookie.
 

Masculinity

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From a psychological standpoint, just keep in mind that what people SAY they would do and what they would ACTUALLY do are usually two different things.
Some will see this as cold; I see it as an act of self-preservation. I would leave that woman as soon as possible.
 

YAboi

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It's very much allowed in the holy Christian bible;


Matthew 5:31-32 ESV
“It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife,
let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But
I say to you that everyone who divorces his
wife, except on the ground of sexual
immorality, makes her commit adultery, and
whoever marries a divorced woman commits
adultery.
 

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No Contact day 2

having a hard time. thinking a lot about her. Missing her and feel like contacting her.
 

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El Payaso said:
Assuming you found out she tested positive for HIV which wasn't through cheating, would you stay with her if you tested negative?
El Payaso has full blown AIDS. Damn your a POS. WTF is wrong with you?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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