Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Wow, that started off making sense then got weird quick.bigneil said:Here is the dark secret of marriage: physical attraction is a spell that only lasts 2 years on average. After that, it's like looking at the same Playboy magazine over and over. The problem with an exceptionally pretty girl is that other men will always be fawning over her, and rightfully so, they will make her feel more attractive than you do, and she will leave you (and you won't care, but the gay central bankers illegitimate, tennis-playing step-nephews will be sure to use the opportunity to destroy you in case you ever catch on to their scheme, by which time they will retreat to their safe rooms after granting her access to your bank account for life).
Dont be the a hole who says neither, you have to pick one option! Gun to your head!guru1000 said:Neither. I have done both. Rather spin a couple 9s or settle down with one unmarried.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Shoot me.jurry said:Dont be the a hole who says neither, you have to pick one option! Gun to your head!
Are you calling your 9's attractive marrieds who are maintained by a husband and you give her the sex?guru1000 said:Neither. I have done both. Rather spin a couple 9s or settle down with one unmarried.
I don't do other men's women. :nono: I don't commit to actions that I wouldn't want done upon me.DaddyLongShanks said:Are you calling your 9's attractive marrieds who are maintained by a husband and you give her the sex?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Translation: jurry is either gay, a banker, or plays tennis.jurry said:Wow, that started off making sense then got weird quick.
Why do you post just to insult jury? How does what you say answer his question? Your first post was meant to bash marriage and is nothing to see.bigneil said:Translation: jurry is either gay, a banker, or plays tennis.
Who do you think made the laws that dictate that a man's life is ruined if he gets divorced?
The central planners, that's who. They don't want strong, independent men to exist. Hence they celebrate Caitlyn Jenner. Be honest jurry, did you use the words "bravery" and "courage" to describe Bruce having his testicles removed?
zinc4 said:Plates get boring fast. I've got all the plates I can handle....yawn....maybe its just because I'm getting older, but if the 9 is rare and down to earth and we actually have a real connection than without hesitation marry the 9 so I can focus on more important things in life than women. Spinning 7s gets pointless after a while.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yeah, personally I don't believe that 9s make good LTR material, they have too many options. This tends to make them high maintenance, attention hos, and a high hypergamy risk. Also, I will not be getting married again, so I'll take the three 7s.DaddyLongShanks said:BTW, the 3-7's treat you like a god and the 9 thinks she is the god.