That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Wow, that started off making sense then got weird quick.bigneil said:Here is the dark secret of marriage: physical attraction is a spell that only lasts 2 years on average. After that, it's like looking at the same Playboy magazine over and over. The problem with an exceptionally pretty girl is that other men will always be fawning over her, and rightfully so, they will make her feel more attractive than you do, and she will leave you (and you won't care, but the gay central bankers illegitimate, tennis-playing step-nephews will be sure to use the opportunity to destroy you in case you ever catch on to their scheme, by which time they will retreat to their safe rooms after granting her access to your bank account for life).
Dont be the a hole who says neither, you have to pick one option! Gun to your head!guru1000 said:Neither. I have done both. Rather spin a couple 9s or settle down with one unmarried.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Shoot me.jurry said:Dont be the a hole who says neither, you have to pick one option! Gun to your head!
Are you calling your 9's attractive marrieds who are maintained by a husband and you give her the sex?guru1000 said:Neither. I have done both. Rather spin a couple 9s or settle down with one unmarried.
I don't do other men's women. :nono: I don't commit to actions that I wouldn't want done upon me.DaddyLongShanks said:Are you calling your 9's attractive marrieds who are maintained by a husband and you give her the sex?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Translation: jurry is either gay, a banker, or plays tennis.jurry said:Wow, that started off making sense then got weird quick.
Why do you post just to insult jury? How does what you say answer his question? Your first post was meant to bash marriage and is nothing to see.bigneil said:Translation: jurry is either gay, a banker, or plays tennis.
Who do you think made the laws that dictate that a man's life is ruined if he gets divorced?
The central planners, that's who. They don't want strong, independent men to exist. Hence they celebrate Caitlyn Jenner. Be honest jurry, did you use the words "bravery" and "courage" to describe Bruce having his testicles removed?
zinc4 said:Plates get boring fast. I've got all the plates I can handle....yawn....maybe its just because I'm getting older, but if the 9 is rare and down to earth and we actually have a real connection than without hesitation marry the 9 so I can focus on more important things in life than women. Spinning 7s gets pointless after a while.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yeah, personally I don't believe that 9s make good LTR material, they have too many options. This tends to make them high maintenance, attention hos, and a high hypergamy risk. Also, I will not be getting married again, so I'll take the three 7s.DaddyLongShanks said:BTW, the 3-7's treat you like a god and the 9 thinks she is the god.