Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Wow, that started off making sense then got weird quick.bigneil said:Here is the dark secret of marriage: physical attraction is a spell that only lasts 2 years on average. After that, it's like looking at the same Playboy magazine over and over. The problem with an exceptionally pretty girl is that other men will always be fawning over her, and rightfully so, they will make her feel more attractive than you do, and she will leave you (and you won't care, but the gay central bankers illegitimate, tennis-playing step-nephews will be sure to use the opportunity to destroy you in case you ever catch on to their scheme, by which time they will retreat to their safe rooms after granting her access to your bank account for life).
Dont be the a hole who says neither, you have to pick one option! Gun to your head!guru1000 said:Neither. I have done both. Rather spin a couple 9s or settle down with one unmarried.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Shoot me.jurry said:Dont be the a hole who says neither, you have to pick one option! Gun to your head!
Are you calling your 9's attractive marrieds who are maintained by a husband and you give her the sex?guru1000 said:Neither. I have done both. Rather spin a couple 9s or settle down with one unmarried.
I don't do other men's women. :nono: I don't commit to actions that I wouldn't want done upon me.DaddyLongShanks said:Are you calling your 9's attractive marrieds who are maintained by a husband and you give her the sex?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Translation: jurry is either gay, a banker, or plays tennis.jurry said:Wow, that started off making sense then got weird quick.
Why do you post just to insult jury? How does what you say answer his question? Your first post was meant to bash marriage and is nothing to see.bigneil said:Translation: jurry is either gay, a banker, or plays tennis.
Who do you think made the laws that dictate that a man's life is ruined if he gets divorced?
The central planners, that's who. They don't want strong, independent men to exist. Hence they celebrate Caitlyn Jenner. Be honest jurry, did you use the words "bravery" and "courage" to describe Bruce having his testicles removed?
zinc4 said:Plates get boring fast. I've got all the plates I can handle....yawn....maybe its just because I'm getting older, but if the 9 is rare and down to earth and we actually have a real connection than without hesitation marry the 9 so I can focus on more important things in life than women. Spinning 7s gets pointless after a while.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yeah, personally I don't believe that 9s make good LTR material, they have too many options. This tends to make them high maintenance, attention hos, and a high hypergamy risk. Also, I will not be getting married again, so I'll take the three 7s.DaddyLongShanks said:BTW, the 3-7's treat you like a god and the 9 thinks she is the god.